meh, it’s just surface level talk with no substance. the person who asks me how my day is usually doesn’t give a rats ass about how I’m feeling, and I don’t care either. maybe it’s just my cynical retail soul but after the first hundred times I’m asked that question I just don’t like hearing it
There’s an easy solution for that. Genuinely tell them how your day is going and include details. The people who wanna know will get a kick out of your candor and the others will know better than to ever fucking ask you again.
Pro tip: never ask a German “how’s it going?” They don’t see that sentence as a greeting, it is a legitimate question that they will answer in excruciating detail.
I don’t care if it’s small talk. But being asked about your day with genuine intrest. That’s good. Especially after having done something exciting the past weeks.
That’s why you just say, “good thanks,” and NEVER EVER ask them in return.
Many people ask how someone’s day is because they actually want to tell you about their day. And the normal thing is for people to return the question. So you get trapped into listening to someone complain about their day because you retuned their small talk.
Instead, just don’t engage in the small talk by answering but not asking in return.
A lot of people get pretty put off by it, but they’re either not able to articulate why, or they realize that “but you didn’t ask me about my day!” is a stupid thing to be mad about. So the end result is those people find a different victim who’s attention they can consume, and I am spared.
Honest question then: how would someone approach you and express interest in your well-being while attempting to bond or develop some common ground just a teeny bit? Sports? Weather? TV? Keep it at “hello”? Thank you.
I don’t like being asked about my day. Don’t know if I’m alone in this.
Oh, why? Did you have a bad day? Wanna talk about it?
meh, it’s just surface level talk with no substance. the person who asks me how my day is usually doesn’t give a rats ass about how I’m feeling, and I don’t care either. maybe it’s just my cynical retail soul but after the first hundred times I’m asked that question I just don’t like hearing it
There’s an easy solution for that. Genuinely tell them how your day is going and include details. The people who wanna know will get a kick out of your candor and the others will know better than to ever fucking ask you again.
Found the German.
Pro tip: never ask a German “how’s it going?” They don’t see that sentence as a greeting, it is a legitimate question that they will answer in excruciating detail.
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I’m actually the descendent of Polish Jews. But with the friendliness of a German!
Huh… That can’t possibly be what I meant to say…
Also, I reject your pro-tip! If I ask someone how they’re doing or how it’s going, I’m genuinely hoping for an open and honest answer.
REKT
Is it because it’s strangers asking? And you feel you have to pretend to be “fine?”
If so, I get that. Strangers and even acquaintances can be scary.
I love being asked how my day is by my partner though.
How was your day by your partner?
I would also like to know how that happened.
Y’know, it was way better than I thought it’d be. Tough, but I got a lot accomplished
My last job had a whole bunch of people like you. I had to mentally put people in a few different lists
It was truly a quest for survival when you have 200 coworkers in an open space.
I am not here, do not acknowledge me, if you must then do it by Teams message, i am going to appear offline because do not disturb is too existent
Presses red button to add @Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone to List 3
Probably not.
I don’t care if it’s small talk. But being asked about your day with genuine intrest. That’s good. Especially after having done something exciting the past weeks.
That’s why you just say, “good thanks,” and NEVER EVER ask them in return.
Many people ask how someone’s day is because they actually want to tell you about their day. And the normal thing is for people to return the question. So you get trapped into listening to someone complain about their day because you retuned their small talk.
Instead, just don’t engage in the small talk by answering but not asking in return.
A lot of people get pretty put off by it, but they’re either not able to articulate why, or they realize that “but you didn’t ask me about my day!” is a stupid thing to be mad about. So the end result is those people find a different victim who’s attention they can consume, and I am spared.
I don’t like being asked about your day either, Bangela :(
How was your 2023 (emoji responses accepted!)?
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You were a hotdog guard until you took an arrow to the knee?
Honest question then: how would someone approach you and express interest in your well-being while attempting to bond or develop some common ground just a teeny bit? Sports? Weather? TV? Keep it at “hello”? Thank you.
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If you’re really interested then just ask about someone’s hobbies. What do they like to do in their spare time?
Opening with sports is a great way to make me never want to talk to you. Instead of trying to guess what they like, just ask them.