pretty wacky week last week, it snowed a ton here, may or may not have bedbugs although if we do for now they seem contained(?) so keeping an eye on that

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    I got on anxiety meds Thursday, and they actually work! Spent the weekend redoing my resume and applying for pretty much anything local or remote that pays $60K; isn’t sales, marketing or customer service/support; and dovetails with my experience. As I’m learning from today’s refresh, there aren’t many.

    If you actually make something, you’re not worth anything. You have to sell things you could never make yourself to make a living wage, apparently.

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    Pretty bad. I have a friend who’s going through a crisis, and I don’t want to downplay it, he’s been wronged and his situation is dangerous. But he’s been lashing out at the wrong people and my feelings are starting to get hurt.

    On top of that, multiple family members who always need my time and money and talk about killing themselves constantly. I can’t stand being responsible for this many people. I feel like I’m preemptively grieving 24/7. The weight is completely unmanageable.

    I’m trying to set better boundaries without becoming callous, but I just want everyone to be OK.

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    I came to work today expecting to have to deal with PIP shit but as it turns out, both my boss and HR are WFH today, an accomodation I’ve been asking for for over a year. Funny how that shit works.

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    Going amazingly. Started going out with Meghan officially as of last Saturday, she’s poly so it’s not like we’ve gone exclusive or anything but it’s a nice change, and hearing her refer to me as (one of) her partner(s) makes me super happy. I plan on talking to her about how things are going and expectations and the like just to make sure there’s no potholes on the road ahead, especially since this is my first relationship.

    But she’s coming over again this Thursday and I’m coming over to her work on Friday for some food and maybe to chill at her place too depending on when she gets off work.

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    Dare I say things are going better this week? I’ve still got little worries, but I’m at least functioning normally again. I had my first electrolysis appointment today. News flash: having your face electrocuted hurts. I’m hoping I can get some numbing cream from my doctor so I don’t have to dread my appointments in the future.

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    I’m sorry to hear about the bedbugs. Hopefully, it isn’t an issue! I have never had to try these tips, thankfully, but Mark Rober seems fairly reliable. https://youtu.be/2JAOTJxYqh8?si=slMMwTf-iOXATvb9

    This week has been one of those weeks where you want to just quit before it starts, lol. I really messed up my stomach a few weeks ago (I’m lactose intolerant and my lactaid didn’t work), and I think I might have killed off a bunch of my good gut bacteria by accident. So I’ve been feeling mildly nauseous off and on in the evenings. I’m taking probiotics daily now, so hopefully, that works out.

    Otherwise, I’ve been just playing some video games on my downtime. I started cyberpunk 2077 recently for the first time. I had tried it at launch, and it was rough, so I decided to wait a while. It seems a lot more stable now, which is neat. I’m trying to think about ways I could incorporate playing the game into a fun youtube video. I’ve got at least one idea, I think. I just need to sit down and see how viable it is.

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    My roommate has some junkie staying on the couch for days now. What obnoxious behaviors should I initiate to discourage them from stayin?

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      The obnoxious behavior of showing them the limited duration guests are allowed to stay as per your lease unless they want to start paying rent.

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      Ugh. Probably all of them.
      As long as they don’t conclude that obnoxious behaviour is acceptable in your place, that is.

      Maybe loud military-style exercise music at 0600 sharp would help?

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    Well, I’m here and this is my first exposure to Lemmy. I’m sure I’ll have a lot of questions about this platform as time goes on.

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    cooked a pumpkin that’s been on my mind since autumn. Didn’t expect sprouted seeds to be that bitter, will try adding to lemon-onion juice 😜

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    @alyaza snow? Wow. Give me some of that snow 😁 Here it’s sunny, but cold. Spring doesn’t really want to come. I still managed to do some spring cleanup around my house, tho.

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    Ugh, bedbugs. I hope that situation resolves quickly for you, preferably as a false alarm. Weather reports say we’re going to see snow on Thursday, which feels appropriate for my 40th birthday; both feel like a wet blanket. I’m running out of space in my greenhouse for everything I’ve been transplanting during the warmer weather and I’d rather be playing in real soil.

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        Thanks! It’s not really a bad thing, I’m just having some trouble reconciling it (and the realization I’ve been the “hey there, fellow kids” meme un-ironically).

        We went to Portland, Maine a few weeks ago to watch a band from Georgia play some metal-influenced soundtracks from Castlevania and The Legend of Zelda while one of their members speed ran each game, and that was pretty great. Probably going to get to go buy new plants as well 🤞

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              my friend jace used to play guitar for them! saw them play ninja guidan and legend of zelda this past fall, and i think that was probably the 5th or 6th time i’ve seen the band. such a unique show and always a blast to watch. if you like that style of music, check out jace’s other project: double ferrari.

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                It was a ton of fun, we would totally see them again the next time they come up north. And I’ll certainly be checking out that link, thanks for sharing it.

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      Happy birthday, whenever it is! You know what they say - once you’ve turned 40, when you wake up and nothing hurts, you know you’re dead. So far can mostly confirm. But on the other hand, you’re officially entitled to ask kids to get off your lawn now. It all sort of evens out.

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        Lmao nope gardening causes aches so I need those whippersnappers on my lawn to help dig and pot things up! It’s usually me and maybe one of the retired women on my street helping out.

        Thanks though, it’ll be “fun” having my niece and nephew tell me how I’m old

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          Thanks though, it’ll be “fun” having my niece and nephew tell me how I’m old

          They’ve only started doing that now? Lucky you!

          Seriously though, the 40’s aren’t a bad age. I hope you’ve had a great party and enjoyed it. And remember, getting older means you’ve survived this far!

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      Ugh, bedbugs. I hope that situation resolves quickly for you, preferably as a false alarm.

      unfortunately not a false alarm but luckily it seems they’re contained to one area we don’t really use anyways for now, and i’ve been picking off the ones i encounter; they seem to be very few and far between right now so i’m cautiously optimistic that management of the affected area will keep them from taking root elsewhere. more than anything it’s just brought attention to areas of our living space that weren’t previously getting much attention which has been good

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        unfortunately not a false alarm

        Booooo

        But I’m glad they haven’t spread. Are you using diatomaceous earth, chemical controls, something else, or a combination thereof? I’m deeply sympathetic; this time of year I tend to discover all the things that were damaged by pests in the spaces I’m not really managing during the off season. Here’s hoping a little enhanced attention will get these issues resolved for both of us.

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          whenever my dad gets to shopping (not for lack of pestering on my part), most likely the first solution will be chemical–but in the interim i’m just trapping them and drowning them as they appear, which has worked well enough because i only see one or two a day and they really stick out against our walls. helpfully they also don’t seem to have gotten into any furniture or other places it’d be hard to root them out from, and we vacuumed the area they originated in which i suspect got a lot of them early

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    It’s been a week since Ramadan started and my sleep schedule is fucked. Staying up all night then eating a hefty eat before sunrise is enough to put me down for half a day until Iftari where you break the fast and eat another hefty meal. I haven’t been able to go to uni because of this, the only to break the cycle is to sleep early at night but i don’t feel sleepy when i have been asleep.for half a day haha

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    Best of luck with the bed bug situation!

    I sorta started this week wanting a career change, I just don’t know what or how. I’m just so tired of being in tech because I thought it was a stable career path. But now all I see is a drive to crunch, offshore everything, and perpetual layoffs because the predicted growth didn’t hit “expectations” despite record profits. I’ve found a better position in comparison to my old one, but it is so hard to give a damn about “build X feature to deliver Y value” for bullshit things that are just selling services or more of X item.

    I’m glad I’ve moved from a purely dev type role to more so project management/product owner stuff, but I hate being responsible for things that feel meaningless. I hate being the person telling devs to keep crunching to build out functionality to allow our product deals to be onnpar with our competitors; woooh developing for over-consumption! Then completely being neutured to pushback because it goes against what the business wants in profits; WLB be damned. I really want to find a way to transfer my skillset to a meaningful non-profit, an actually impactful company (if it exists), or maybe a museum or something else similar. Part of it is I don’t quite know how to make that journey or if those type of jobs are even available in my area.

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    Taxes. What can I say, there is always something…

    Former employer issues me a random 1095-C saying they offered me health insurance in 2023. Of course this is false. How much trouble this will cause when I try to claim the PTC this year, who knows. Then I get my taxes almost into FTU and find that it will not handle this years taxes. So I have to find another provider that can. On top of that, still waiting on one final set of tax documents from one entity that can’t seem to get its act together. Have no idea if they will by April 15 or not. Feels 50/50 at this point. May have to put in an extension while I wait 3 to 6 months for the wheels to turn on something that should have been done 2 months ago. Of course this means I cannot finish my taxes or get my refund until who knows when. Ironically this year my refund is larger then usual so timing matters more.

    Not sure where I am. Makes me want to laugh and scream at the same time.