Femal Aquaintance- “You can’t be bi, you’re married! Wait…do you cheat on -=wife=-?!?”
Me - “Of course I can, and no I don’t cheat.”
Female Aquaintance - “But you’re married! Doesn’t -=wife=- have a problem with it?”
Me - “No. She’s bi too.”
Female Aquaintance -“But she’s married!!!”
Two weeks later she got drunk and wanted a threesome, then got annoyed that we turned her down. I have no idea why people immediately assume that bi means “will fuck anyone that asks”.
Online dating as a bi woman is grim. It’s annoying, because in certain contexts, I’d be up for casually fooling around with a couple, but when you think you’re going on a date with a woman and then her surprise boyfriend shows up, it’s gross and predatory
My mom met a non-binary friend of mine and their girlfriend. My NB friend comes across as a masculine muscular bro dude but their NB and pan. I mentioned to my mom later that they were NB and she was like “but he has a girlfriend…?” I had to walk her through “you’ve heard of men being attracted to women, and women being attracted to women. Well Zack is neither and is attracted to women.” In her mind, gender and sexuality were like, part of the same thing. Which I guess they are but not the way she thought.
I had to teach the difference between the two to my therapist the first time I talked about being trans.
The upside to that whole thing being that they ended up using my knowledge as a launching point to learn what the latest research has to say about gender, sexuality, and trans people, and then several years later thanked me because my conversations on the subject with them went on to help them with other patients that they had.
I don’t have it in me. I can speak on stuff like being trans or bi from a place of personal experience and needing to learn about that stuff for reasons like to be able to medically advocate for myself to get proper care and treatment, but I don’t have the public speaking skills or ability to articulate my point well enough for a profession like therapy.
I did enjoy being in a quasi-managerial role though, where it was informal enough that I got to encourage the kids I worked with to do what they were passionate about or teach them about stuff I knew and push them to try new things that they might have never considered before. Talking to high school and college kids who were passionate about different things and getting to hear them info dump about their interests was fun.
Actual conversation I had regarding my sexuality:
Femal Aquaintance- “You can’t be bi, you’re married! Wait…do you cheat on -=wife=-?!?”
Me - “Of course I can, and no I don’t cheat.”
Female Aquaintance - “But you’re married! Doesn’t -=wife=- have a problem with it?”
Me - “No. She’s bi too.”
Female Aquaintance -“But she’s married!!!”
Two weeks later she got drunk and wanted a threesome, then got annoyed that we turned her down. I have no idea why people immediately assume that bi means “will fuck anyone that asks”.
Straight men are attracted to more than one women and therefore they’re attracted to people who aren’t their wife, so they must be cheating!
Online dating as a bi woman is grim. It’s annoying, because in certain contexts, I’d be up for casually fooling around with a couple, but when you think you’re going on a date with a woman and then her surprise boyfriend shows up, it’s gross and predatory
My mom met a non-binary friend of mine and their girlfriend. My NB friend comes across as a masculine muscular bro dude but their NB and pan. I mentioned to my mom later that they were NB and she was like “but he has a girlfriend…?” I had to walk her through “you’ve heard of men being attracted to women, and women being attracted to women. Well Zack is neither and is attracted to women.” In her mind, gender and sexuality were like, part of the same thing. Which I guess they are but not the way she thought.
I had to teach the difference between the two to my therapist the first time I talked about being trans.
The upside to that whole thing being that they ended up using my knowledge as a launching point to learn what the latest research has to say about gender, sexuality, and trans people, and then several years later thanked me because my conversations on the subject with them went on to help them with other patients that they had.
You should become a therapist.
I don’t have it in me. I can speak on stuff like being trans or bi from a place of personal experience and needing to learn about that stuff for reasons like to be able to medically advocate for myself to get proper care and treatment, but I don’t have the public speaking skills or ability to articulate my point well enough for a profession like therapy.
I did enjoy being in a quasi-managerial role though, where it was informal enough that I got to encourage the kids I worked with to do what they were passionate about or teach them about stuff I knew and push them to try new things that they might have never considered before. Talking to high school and college kids who were passionate about different things and getting to hear them info dump about their interests was fun.
Gender and sexuality have been a blur for a long time. It’s not long ago that transgenderism was considered a sexuality
It really opens up the world of bored white middle class couple threesomes, though. They always pay for drinks and give fantastic Christmas gifts.
will you fuck me? (m25) /s
Sure, I just need the password to your bank account to verify your identity first.
MyMaiMayMiNyeMye
sure meet me at 935 Pennsylvania Ave., NW, Washington, DC 20535 for a thorough fucking
Straight people think you are OBLIGATED to do the sex.