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Cake day: March 8th, 2025

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  • For me it looked like tupperware city… Every old plastic container I could find.

    This was helpful to me although says much more than needed - for a TLDR just scroll down to the example with the red bricks being categorised into big groups and then broken down again. (I can’t emphasize enough though doing things by color is horrendous 😅)

    There isn’t anything on here I don’t think but I do think there is r/Legostorage (might not have remembered the name perfectly) which has tonnes of good ideas and advice. Ultimately after you have added all the parts you are going to want to store them in a meaningful way to actually get them quickly.



  • Yes! I just did this with 25000 pieces I got on FB market place.

    Identifying what you can build: You want: https://rebrickable.com/

    • Add any sets you have.
    • Add any parts you have.

    Then you can search for what you can build - filtering by exact colours/close matches/any.

    You can also filter only official sets, alternative builds for official sets and MOC (make own creation - builds other people have come up with - both paid and free)

    Identifying Parts: Finally as someone who took weeks adding all my parts and only discovered this app in the last few days…

    https://brickognize.com/

    This website you can take a photo of any one piece and it will give you the part number so you don’t have to hunt for it on the rebrickable parts list. It is astonishingly accurate!

    Other tips: Sort your parts first. I went through 2 key stages…

    • Reduce to broad categories: brick, plate, bracket, minifigure etc.
    • remove every part of one type at a time regardless of color and then add them etc.

    With rebrickable you can just select 1x2 brick and add 10 black and then just quickly change number and color to 8 green etc. So colour’s are not worth sorting til the very end!!

    Plus identifying all the green 1x2s in a pile of 1x2s is a LOT easier than identifying all the 1x2 greens in a huge pile of green stuff.

    I’ll stop now as it’s becoming a wall of text but any questions feel free to ask!





  • So full disclosure I am ex-christian so take my input with a pinch of salt.

    That said, I think many of your concerns would make exploration of progressive forms of Christianity something worth exploring. Your pull to community and the teachings of Jesus (whether or not he taught them or not) would be able to remain central without a need to see the Bible as a history book to be taken literally. Progressives, much like the Jews (broadly speaking), do not see the text as explicitly “true” as in factually true but rather true as in true of nature and value. In the same way that Romeo and Juliette never had to have actually existed in real life for their story to impact us and shape us.

    A good place to start might be someone like Brian McLaren who was central to the movement throughout the 90s and 2000s. He has a lot of great books exploring how to bring what is good and helpful within Christianity into a world of science, inclusivity and globalisation.


  • Kids are easy to manipulate in general. But kids raised in this environment are a predators dream come true.

    They are told they are sinners from birth and therefore unlovable outside of god’s infinite generosity of murdering his own kid. They are told whatever happens to them is for a reason and doesn’t need to “make sense” as it makes sense to god. They are taught never to speak out against “gods anointed” and see everyone around them they trust speak of this pastor figure like they are a god.

    Predators like these pastors know there is a low chance they will ever talk. Beyond that they know they will be “forgiven” if they are caught a lot of the time. Thinking of that viral clip a couple of years ago of a pastor being given a standing ovation for “bravely coming forward and confessing sexual sin” [r*ping a 14yr old]

    The whole thing is a god damn mess and the sooner we are done with it the better.





  • Psychotherapist in the UK here. I cannot stress enough that many of these services are quite predatory both on the therapist and clients. Additionally many do not vet their therapists properly.

    I don’t know where you are in the EU but your country should have regulating bodies. Here in the UK we have BACP, BPS, COSCA etc. All of which have online directories that let you search by speciality, filter for online/in-person etc. In the UK (and I’ve heard this is true in some other places in Europe but not sure where) you do NOT have to be qualified to call yourself a therapist or counselor so going with someone outside of these regulatory bodies often means you are doing therapy with someone that did a weekend online course. It is also why these online services are full of people you don’t want to be working with.

    Before COVID, in the UK we were required to have specialist additional training to work via phone/online but since COVID it’s a bit of a wild west. It is substantially different working online than in person - that can be a very good thing… But it can also be a very bad thing too.

    My advise is find a regulatory body, search their directory and look for people who specialize in exactly what you want to work in. Many will tick a box as one of 100 things they can work with - ignore those and look for people that in the description talk about neurodiversity etc.

    Oh and finally, good practice is to offer clients a 15-20 min call so you can explain how you work and help them get an idea of if they’d like to work with you. Take advantage of this and talk to 2-4 people first before picking someone. The number 1 metric for positive outcomes in therapy is how well you connect to your therapist, so don’t compromise on that.

    If you would like more pointers feel free to ask, I don’t want to overshare info that isn’t relevant.



  • Capitalism loves to point at mental health - especially after spending decades shaping public views and systemic approaches mental health to be a personal defect and issue.

    9x out of 10 psychopathology done thoroughly rather than just ticking off some symptoms in the DSM/ICD identifies above psychological or biological factors the main factor in mental health struggles is sociological.

    Simply put: society is depressing people, society is making people anxious… And behind all that it is capitalism that dictates that success and survival is based on ability to produce. And if you fail to produce the whole system is stacked against you to reduce your ability to function mentally.

    For folks interested in this I highly recommend checking out Lucy Johnson of the BPS (British Psychological Society)'s Power Threat Meaning Framework for a radical new way to see mental health.




  • As a psychotherapist I’ve found myself working with quite a few people in the last 5yrs going through the process of questioning if they are neurodivergent after social media psychoeducation.

    In my experience many professionals are woefully under trained in the area of both trauma and neurodivergence and both would be primary considerations if you friend is resonating with descriptions of experiences and symptoms of ADHD. It is very often overlooked and misdiagnosed or missed as a diagnosis. Additionally many Therapists are trained to stay in the clients frame of reference and would not suggest a diagnosis that would be the job of a psychiatrist (at least here in the UK).

    I think this can be a really complicated field to navigate. The way we diagnose mental health divergence in the west is primarily using the ICD or DSM both very problematic for various reasons but most of all because they look at symptoms to diagnose. Generally when diagnosing a physical condition symptoms are key to bringing people into the doctors office but you wouldn’t want chemo because you had trouble breathing… You’d want some further tests to identify if it was lung cancer or a broken rib. Hell even some good additional questioning can drill down to this. Now in saying that a good mental health professional will do this, but many don’t - especially somewhere like America.

    The reason this is such an issue is many underlying conditions can present as ADHD - and visa versa. Your friend could have complex or chronic trauma, or any number of personality disorders for example. On the flip side I’ve seen people with probable ADHD be turned away from medical help because psychiatrists have (in my opinion) wrongly presumed it’s trauma.

    So to me the thing I tend to focus on more than anything is how does this stuff show up in people’s lives and how can they alieviate the pain. For many seeking a diagnosis and getting medical help will be worth trying. For many other just having a community that struggles with similar issues and supports each other with tools and techniques that help is enough. Whatever it looks like for your friend I’d recommend you ask her what supporting her would look like from her perspective and do your best to be there.

    To be clear I don’t think you did anything “wrong”, we all react from our own frame of reference and yours was different then than it is now as you are considering other angles. But I think you are asking the right question and sound like a good friend.

    On the topic of these psycho education social media platforms - ultimately, I’m more thankful for the increased awareness and access to tools and techniques that help people than for any false self-diagnosis that undoubtably occurs because of it.