Latest hits: if gender is performative that means itās fake and patriarchy doesnāt exist! I donāt know who Judith Butler is!
Latest hits: if gender is performative that means itās fake and patriarchy doesnāt exist! I donāt know who Judith Butler is!
Im a cis person(tho probably not the kind you meant) and i think talking about gender is pretty tiring. I think everyone has their biases and everything but you can make yourself a good person by trying to understand why you have those biasesa at least. And also gender is a prettt complex thing.
If youāre being open minded and respectful even if you donāt understand something (or disengaging if you canāt) then probably 99% of trans people, myself included, arenāt going to have any issue with your questions or contributions to discussions about gender
Itās the (usually cis) people who are at Gender 101 level engagement, think theyāre at Gender 501 level engagement, and also want to understand and learn nothing who make this so goddamn tiring š„²
lol no disrespect, but you did just say ābe open minded and respectfulā after posting a meme equating all cis people to idiot babies
Yes, you (general you) as a cis person should be open minded and respectful about trans people, because you donāt know shit about what itās like to be trans.
Butā¦my point was you canāt say ābe open minded and respectful, you dumb, nothing-going-on-upstairs idiot toddler.ā
Do unto others, friend. Thatās my point. Be respectful, donāt talk down to people and maybe youāll be able to find that large swath of allies available to you. Because they do exist. But not if you actively repel them. Example: youāre in 196.blahaj and your attitude is not making you friends. Youāre turning one of he most sympathetic, understanding spaces against you with your attitude. Seems like that might be your problem in the bigger picture, too. Learn from that.
āBe as respectful of my confident ignorance as you want me to be of your lived experienceā isnāt what I fuck with, not sorry.
PS; I literally canāt see downvotes and donāt care. Downvoting me is a pacification button on your end.
Iāmā¦not the one downvoting you. Youāre entirely missing the point. And entirely mischaracterizing me. I support you. I want to see you flourish and succeed. Thatās what Iāve been saying. But you are shutting the door in everyoneās faces and saying āwhy doesnāt anyone want to be in this room with me?! They must be bigots!ā No, you have to let people support you. You canāt turn everyone away and then blame them for not being on your side.
And thatās not even people not being on your side! Itās that they personally donāt like youāno offense. It has nothing to do with your identity. But if your perception is bent through that particular lens, then youāre seeing a lack of people around you, specifically, as a lack of support for trans people. And that is not whatās happening.
See what Iām saying?
Letās be honest here, thatās a long way of saying āthe vast majority of people couldnāt give a shit either way how I live my life but they just really really wish Iād stop talking about myself for a minuteā š
Ah, the vegan effect. Tbh I hadnāt thought about it that way before.