Glad I missed whatever this is about
vagueposting is cowardice and leads to a more toxic atmosphere on the site than just confronting ppl directly
i do agree with your overall point tho
Ok completely unrelated to the actual post, but the colour palette of this screenshot is the enby flag and that’s neat.
Stop dating your coworkers and log into muggy
DONT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT.
To elaborate for those who are going to “but ackshwally,” yes there’s some nuance.
If you’re in a very large org with different departments, that’s different as long as there’s not power dynamics. So if you’re sales and they’re part of quality assurance, ok, fine. Be normal ask them out and move on. Don’t carry a torch, that’s the one way to really make what could otherwise be a very normal interaction weird.
Don’t date your boss, don’t date your subordinate, don’t date your peers in your part of the office. If you absolutely have to, then BE NORMAL and just ask them out to get over it quickly and remember that the longer and weirder you make it the more likely you could lose your job in a worst case.
You’re not Jim and Pam in some slow burn romance. Crushes are for people under the age of 18 (in which case, all the not having sex with coworkers goes out the window if it’s not a real job. The amount of kids who hooked up at the pizza place I worked at… It was high).
To spell it out: you’re going to have to maintain a professional relationship with this person if they’re not interested OR if you break up. Is it worth it? There are probably many people out there you’re compatible with. Work crushes are inappropriate, especially since they can’t just leave (like, say, some person you hit on in a bar or something). They aren’t there for romance either, they’re there to work.
P.S. I speak from the fact that I’m at least somewhat socially awkward and the very thought of having to see someone who rejected me or dumped me daily was so crushing I fully embraced don’t shit where you eat mindset. There have been a few coworkers I found attractive, but I never carried a torch or crushed on them since I would never be able to act on it.
Crushes are for people under the age of 18
Workplaces aside, sometimes you feel a bit of a something for someone and it’s not the right call to make a move. If it’s destroying you, you obviously have to get some space, but if not sometimes it just makes sense to ride it out. If you accept it, it can be kind of a sweet thing, and sometimes it can settle into a nice sort of platonic attraction.
To me, a crush requires a certain element of self-destruction that other kinds of attraction don’t. A crush is also very selfish, it kind of objectifies the other person, and doesn’t make them an active part of the relationship building process. I have friends to whom i’m attracted to/admire greatly, but at the same time wouldn’t want to actually be in a relationship with, and I just try not to make my attraction everything about interacting with this person, there’s the shaky ground imo. I’ve had some pretty bad crushes, and it ends up pretty badly for both of us, often with the relationship being poisoned by me allowing it to go unchecked.
Then, if you’re using crush in a much more lighthearted way like some of my queer friends do, all power to you. Be histrionic and express your love/adoration as loud as you want and to the degree others consent to.
I once posted about my coworkers unrequited feelings for Beans from Rango. I apologize.
Back in the early days of this site the general megathread contained some of the most off-putting terminally online shit I have ever seen in my life. Fuckin weird ass cuddle threads and all kinds of baby speak. This place has grown for the better but I dont know that we’ll ever be able to fully break away from our creepy ass roots. Sometimes that mega can still hit ya with some full force shit that just makes you close the tab and walk away.
It’s okay you can join the cuddle puddle when you’re ready
baby speak lol i desperately need to see examples of this
just imagine a
where people just reply 
and 
over and over and overI prefer that old site culture
oh good i wasn’t the only one incredibly concerned
maybe it’s bc i’ve been on the receiving end of an unrequited crush from someone i barely knew but man that shit just reads as scary to me
“Socialist”
Incapable of healthy socializing
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i don’t think it’s normal to post about crushes regularly. i would personally be very alarmed that someone i thought was a friend was regularly publishing details of our time together and how they’re developing feelings for me on a public forum that is easily readable by literally anyone, even people with malicious intent. as a woman, it is genuinely scary that an audience could be reading about my life and i would have literally zero clue about it
True but also Yoshikage Kira OF ALL PEOPLE would not fucking tell someone that
Yoshikage Kira was all about appearing unremarkable and normal to the world, so he probably would have said that.
He also had disdain for the coworkers that hit on him.
I thought this was a pride flag until I expanded the image.
Handsexual pride flag
