Workplaces aside, sometimes you feel a bit of a something for someone and it’s not the right call to make a move. If it’s destroying you, you obviously have to get some space, but if not sometimes it just makes sense to ride it out. If you accept it, it can be kind of a sweet thing, and sometimes it can settle into a nice sort of platonic attraction.
To me, a crush requires a certain element of self-destruction that other kinds of attraction don’t. A crush is also very selfish, it kind of objectifies the other person, and doesn’t make them an active part of the relationship building process. I have friends to whom i’m attracted to/admire greatly, but at the same time wouldn’t want to actually be in a relationship with, and I just try not to make my attraction everything about interacting with this person, there’s the shaky ground imo. I’ve had some pretty bad crushes, and it ends up pretty badly for both of us, often with the relationship being poisoned by me allowing it to go unchecked.
Then, if you’re using crush in a much more lighthearted way like some of my queer friends do, all power to you. Be histrionic and express your love/adoration as loud as you want and to the degree others consent to.
Workplaces aside, sometimes you feel a bit of a something for someone and it’s not the right call to make a move. If it’s destroying you, you obviously have to get some space, but if not sometimes it just makes sense to ride it out. If you accept it, it can be kind of a sweet thing, and sometimes it can settle into a nice sort of platonic attraction.
To me, a crush requires a certain element of self-destruction that other kinds of attraction don’t. A crush is also very selfish, it kind of objectifies the other person, and doesn’t make them an active part of the relationship building process. I have friends to whom i’m attracted to/admire greatly, but at the same time wouldn’t want to actually be in a relationship with, and I just try not to make my attraction everything about interacting with this person, there’s the shaky ground imo. I’ve had some pretty bad crushes, and it ends up pretty badly for both of us, often with the relationship being poisoned by me allowing it to go unchecked.
Then, if you’re using crush in a much more lighthearted way like some of my queer friends do, all power to you. Be histrionic and express your love/adoration as loud as you want and to the degree others consent to.