Become a socialist and realize it’s not your fault, you are just trying to get through.

You should try being assertive, you can look it up, but essentially it’s a healthier communication style that emphasizes on facts and feeling. For example, you shouldn’t say you don’t care for me, instead say you cancelling our date made me feel dismissed.

You can look it up online, essentially it’s a middle ground between being passive or aggressive.

Keep in mind that every feeling is valid, and trying to pursuade someone otherwise is the art of gaslighting. Emotional manipulation and gaslighting, are common in a Narcissist’s playbook, if you feel you emotions are invalidated don’t angry, instead leave it’s not worth your time.

Are you high? 🤣 Jokes aside, I would be interested to know why you are asking these questions.

1. Yes, I am intelligent, a lot of people have been impressed by the speed I digest a new piece of information.
2. I have wisdom to know that intelligence plays a very insignificant part in shaping my identity. As for putting my intelligence into good use, I am not sure I can answer yes. I am too idealistic for my own good.
3. IMO humans are unique and similar at the same time. Though, we got to be careful when trying to identify our similarities (see biopolitics, especially M. Foucault).

I know you are asking for something different, but since there are already a few good answers, allow me to instead to reject the premise and give you a different.

It’s not impossible to implement an AI solution within the context your provided. The problem is that it’s going to be expensive. However, you can offer to deliver something smaller, focus on the smallest but valuable contribution you can make. While cleaning up the data is still going to be a hell of task, if the scope is small enough it can be achievable. Then, you can communicate the difficulty to scale due to data issues which can help management undestand the importance of prioritizing data quality.

If you have a bunch of sales data, maybe you can focus on deriving purchase patterns and build a simple recommendations engine. If you want to focus on marketing, you could try lead classification. Ideas depend on the domain of the company you work for.

The best feeling of my lie? Getting fired after returning from vacations.

Is anyone interested in starting a book club? Right now I am reading “Implementing Domain-Driven Design” by Vaugn Vernon.

I am considering starting a channel about software engineering. I want to be able to fully switch to open source development, and I am hoping that the channel can become a healthy stream of income in the future.

That’s not the case for me, I can start doing stuff while talking with someone that is sitting, watching TV, or whatever.

I think having someone near your serves two purposes:

1. It helps your brain produce happiness juice (dopamine), that makes doing stuff easier.
2. They act as an anchor, helping you stay at one place and focus on what you should be doing, like a physical reminder.

If other people negatively impact your ability to get things done, I would suggest looking into it. Maybe you are subconsciously copying them, or you feel same shame doing stuff while others are not. I am not trying to invalidate your experience, just suggesting that it’s possible you can gain a better understanding of it if you dive deeper.

I have procrastinated the hell out of it 😭 Thanks for reminding me though ❤️

Hit me up!

I would give myself a solid 4.2/5 on python.

• I have in deepth knowledge of more than a few popular libraries including flask, django, marshmallow, typer, sqlalchemy, pandas, numpy, and many more.
• I have authored a few libraries.
• I have been keeping up with PEPs, and sometimes offered my feedback.
• I have knowledge of the internals of development tooling, including mypy, pylint, black, and a pycharm plugin I have created.

I wouldn’t give myself a 5/5 since I would consider that an attainable level of expertise, with maybe a few expections around the globe. IMO the fun part of being really good at something is that you understand there still is to learn ❤️

I’ve had a very tough time finding my first position as a junior dev

The hiring landscape for software engineers/developers is a mess for the past year or so. You shouldn’t internalize the experience, most likely you are just unlucky.

A few things to consider for finding a job:

1. Utilize your connections, a lot of hiring still happens through connections. If you have attended a university/college/bootcamp reach out to your professors and check if they can refer you to any positions.
2. Make sure your CV can be parsed by tools. Try uploading your CV on open resume, if it’s not parsed correctly you might want to update it.
3. Create a portfolii website, it’s a great way to illustrate your skills. Also, others here can check it out and offer advice.
4. Update your LinkedIn profile, make sure to check that open for recruiters thingy.

If you want to learn more about react I am happy to have a chat with you (no fee), feel free to DM me.

Do you really think you behave like a dick? Just becase other people say that, it doesn’t mean it’s true…

I have fully switched to kagi, it’s not perfect but for the average case it’s better than google.

Been writing an article about dating while being AuDHD. While I am not going to pretend I am some guru that is going to turn your dating experience upside down, I have a few things that have worked for me:

1. Be open about your neurodivergency. If a person is worth it, they will be interested to know more about it, try to understand and accommodate your needs, and be charmed by your quirks.
2. Respect your RSD. If you feel like you are receiving negative feedback don’t shutdown, instead ask for clarification. If you want to do something but are afraid how it will be perceived, ask them. Unsurprisingly, people tend to appreciate the check-ins, it is perceived as you being caring.
3. Try pebbling. It is the act of sharing things that you think the other person would appreciate. Feel free to info dump, feel free to share relevant experiences.
4. Be meta as fuck. Explain your thought process, why you are doing something, and that train of thought that led to you saying seemingly completely irrelevant. Allistic people don’t understand neurodivergence, but the right people will make the effort.
5. Be honest. Maybe you don’t feel safe to expose your date to your fully unmasked self, and that’s okay. BUT, honesty can go a long way. See something you like? Turn that into a compliment! Feeling insecure? Explain that and ask for validation! Something bothers you? Ask for the appropriate accommodations!
6. Don’t try to impress the other person. Instead give your date the chance to like the real you. It’s much more sustainable in the long term, you will feel more free and safe in your relationship, and it’s fucking good to be appreciated.
7. Routinize flirting. The consistency feels great for the other person, everyone needs a confidence boost and a few words of affirmation.

I have setup a rustdesk server with docker, it was surprisingly easy to get started. It was for a friend who is managing the IT services of a small factory, the completely switched from TeamViewer and they are satisfied. More importantly their users, who are worse than your average windows user, found the transition relatively painless.

I show my hairdresser a picture of my previous haircut (or one I like).

I have been dating this girl for the past month, she is awesome, and she makes me smile everyday 😁

I have had a relatively bad week, I got rejected by a company I was interviewing with for the past two months, but she has been my rock.

TIL this is called cognitive shuffle, it seems there a few studies on its effect on late onset insomnia, but no conclusive evidence on its efficacy. I am wondering if a more targeted study would provide better results (aka only on monotropic people)?

What do you the new section about misinformatiom? Do you think reddthat needs one?

When considering misinformation clauses I like the Wikipedia example. Intentionally or not, a core strategy wikipedia followed from early on is “don’t give a platform to the trolls”. Some believe that constructive critism is not effective against an attention seeking troll, it’s much more efficient for everyone to ban them early.

That said, freedom of speech is equally important and it’s important to differentiate between hard to discuss topics and misinformation. Hard to discuss topics are important because they help us explore new ideas, and grow as people and society.

All in all, I don’t like LW’s misinformation section, but I do think one is necessary. While, I cannot make a complete suggestion, I would definitely consider updating the clauses about peer reviewed research. Publications can be a reliable source of information, but gatekeeping knowledge into academic institutions is an issue IMO (especially if you consider that being a researcher is an socioeconomic privilege).

What do you think about how the situation was handled by the LW admin team?

It was a roller coaster to watch the controversy unveil, but I think the situation was handled well by the LW team. An admin made a few mistakes, which is understandable, the mistakes were acknowledged and fixed.

Given that LW is the biggest lemmy instance, how do you think these changes will influence smaller instances like reddthat?

While, I am sure of the influence LW holds over other lemmy instances, I try to remember that in the scope of the fediverse LW is relatively small.