It’s a reply of children because adults want to be angry with them, not find out why they did something, so people like you tell them to “just be responsible” etc without ever listening or offering support.

So if an adult wants to yell at you, you say “i dont know” and let the angry windbag rant and rave. From the kid’s POV the adult/teacher don’t care about the reason (y’all usually don’t) you just want to have your ego bruised by a whole ass child dealing with whole ass life not about you being late.

But “i dont know” is easier than “mom has a new boyfriend who keeps me up all night and i sleep late” you still probably wouldn’t listen or would then tell the child how they should handle the neglect of their education by their parents themselves, rather than show empathy and understanding.

Because it’s about them listening to you, not about them being tiny people with no emotional regulation or rights trying to navigate a world where they are treated like little adults with zero power to escape abusive situations in school or at home of their own power, unlike you an adult who isnt the property of your parents.

But yeah they’re just stupid little twerps looking to pull one over on you, right? They dont have complex lives outside of their time with you, they spend all day making sure how to make you feel disrespected by showing up late!

And that is why you get “i dont know”.

It sounds like you wont listen to reason, if you dont understand or can’t experience a situation yourself.

That means you can only work with or bw friends with people like you. That’s a very small window of tolerance.

Sounds like a rigged game: if someone wants to feel like the blame is being shifted.

What good is blame anyway if you want to fix the problem in the first place? I’ll never get it. It feels primally cathartic to blame a person, but it fixes the issues to find the reason.

Hey you know what, when you’re in love, whatever works. So many people are lonely, at least they found each other. 🥹

This is how playing Pokemon Scarlett feels

RimWorld and modded Pokemon Scarlett.

On one hand i am adoring Scarlett more than i expected… On the other, what I enjoy is almost exclusively from the mod, so I don’t know where to even talk about the fun i am having understanding I probably still wouldn’t want to purchase the full game, even with all the fun I am having, because the jank is only tolerable for me on an emulator with mods.

RimWorld im really into a insectoids 2 mod run. About to try my hand at vanilla expanded genetics with Alpha Animals and Rimbees.

Im vibrating for stardew valley mobile update. It’s been my favorite way to play and I wanna mod that, too. 😩

Flashbacks to when only the teacher and I understood A Modest Proposal and not being able to explain to anyone else in that class that i was appreciating that he was sassing the english NOT the actual idea of eating babies. 🙃

It will do discord? That’s amazing, I will have to look back into it. Discord has been awful for a while, but getting people to switch is impossible. 😩

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I haven’t thought of those apps for years, I used Pidgin! I had to look up the program name.

One thing that helped me was watching youtubers play the game doing weird challenges. When i saw what experts were able to do (and often times how many mistakes they could work around) i realized that the game is waaaay more “frozen in time” than any Harvest Moon game was.

I think there’s legitimately only like one or two thing that can be missed at all, and it’s like one cutscene (that doesn’t cut you out from anything with the npc).

For me the trick is the clock, I personally found it very intimidating! I found the best routine is to check the tv and see what your luck is for the day, check the calendar and see of i want to give someone a gift for their birthday, and then plan what i do for the day around that.

I don’t personally take up the quests for the npcs because i don’t know the map well and it felt more stressful. They don’t seem to care! Chatting with them every day I can and giving them something they don’t hate for their birthdays, I was already getting random npcs up to three hearts not even trying.

I could chat with you all day about it and this is already long enough, but i just have to remind myself the town is like a little special place just for me, almost completely frozen in time waiting to walk forward at my speed. ☺️

I didn’t realize there was deep lore in an egg_irl post, i took it as the comic it was.

Without that background information, (that is not included unless i stalk the OP, which doesn’t feel like it would endear anyone to my participation) it feels close to a comic could reinforce the “you can’t win trying to be supportive to queer people these days” energy since there’s nothing clear about there being a boundary made by the other person in the comic? Maybe there’s something i missed on the lemmy ui, I’m willing to admit!

As an older queer i am not quite sure when we decided clothing meant anything (again) since growing up it was something we already tried to work on in the queer community, just look into lesbian spaces and their attempts to uncouple femininity from being required to dress up. Have binary identities and enforcing trans people to present a particular way backfired into hyper gendered expressions being required?

Another question is how can the community help individuals vulnerable to invalidation of parts of their identity? I know everyone needs support as a whole and in general in their lives. The ability to stand strong in yourself in the storm can’t be manufactured without a foundation, and how do we help newbies find that with the atmospheres as tense as they are, even in queer spaces?

Is that question really “in good-faith” to “that law doesn’t apply in my country”?

Sounds like we should have made ISPs government owned then!

That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they’re going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I’m going to be the one to figure things out.

Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It’s up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won’t blow me off.

It’s the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃

Buuuut having them on your truck makes “deez nutz” jokes funnier!

I guess if the person knows about the truck nuts, that is.

Or if you’re at your truck when you make the joke…

I’ve been pretty lazy about changing stores since they had the easiest pick up i had found in my area, but i guess this is the ass kick i need to make sure i never go back.

Sucks they own almost all the groceries in my area. But i can trust that it’s not a monopoly, right?

Groceries prices deeeeefinately aren’t inflated. Nope. All good here.

Worst thing I didn’t realize from being young is: keeping people around who are going to eventually leave no matter what cuz they didn’t actually respect me isn’t worth it.

Show them enough respect to get what you need out of them but don’t be friendly with them because they don’t actually care about you and none of it’s real. They’re being social friendly just enough but it’s not real and they don’t really care about you.

Don’t get emotionally invested and don’t let people close to you who don’t know you and who you know cause you pain, otherwise you’re just causing self harm to not be alone and the scars will ruin close social relationships. Colleagues should ne at arm’s length you, can tell them that they’re being inappropriate, you can just walk away you, can ignore them, be cold to them give them social situations to make them feel uncomfortable like they do you and cut them out.

I promise you in 2 years agter graduation none of them will probably be around. None of them will probably helped you with a job (networking it almost exclusively better with older people in the industry NOT your own rivals for jobs).

And you’re going to have spent time juggling relationships that were a waste of your time and that they never cared. Carry around scars for your future partners and friends, ways you wont trust because of a casual acquaintance. It’s as bad as having a cheating partner for causing you to mistrust and feel unsable to force yourself to be friendly with people who don’t care about you.

None of what they say matters to them or they even process it in social situations. They dont put themselves into your shoes.

I’m it feels like everything to you and so it feels like it’ll be everything to them, but no they won’t remember you for anythings but a stereotypes they formed in their head 2 months after you haven’t been around. Then a year later they may have the vaguest recollection.

Only you will remember this in 10 years. Act with respect for yourself, not them and not what you’ve been told they’ll be good for.

Because you won’t lie at night wishing you had given more of yourselves to others. You wont wish you made yourself more vulnerable, more easy to hurt by letting cold and thoughtless people into a close place where they can hurt you. You’ll wish you had walked away rather than cause wounds you’ll never be able to heal.

Is that the take away from the comic? I see it as more someone trying to explore through clothing and someone saying theyw would be supportive?

Are we so defensive we can’t even have that anymore? Are we unable to discuss gender presentation and identity detached from transition? What about nonbinary identities? Some people explore that and transition, some don’t.

Are we really supposed to be regressive and call it self protection? Are we at the “respectable transgender” era along with “I’m gay but I don’t know about this trans stuff” already?

Do you have a movie or show as an example specifically or just a general “can”?