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  • I don’t know why the question was asked in the city. Go out to the forest women and ask them.

    In general, people and bears don’t want to hassle each other, doubly so for those in the woods. If you encounter either, you’re probably going to be fine. However, bears won’t stalk you, pretend to be friendly to gain your trust with the intention of harming you. Men won’t go into a blind rage because hibernation season is around the corner and you’re standing between them and a delicious tuna sandwich. Honestly if I’m alone in the woods I’d rather encounter an animal than a person because I was in the woods to be alone.

    If you are in the woods and encounter a man or mountain lion

    • make yourself look as big as possible
    • maintain eye contact
    • demonstrate you are a threat
    • don’t trust his lies

    If you encounter a bear

    • avoid getting between a mother and her cubs
    • take extra precautions to bearproof your food at your campsite
    • back away slowly while facing the bear (without maintaining eye contact)
    • under no circumstances should you fight a bear





  • I think this is a really interesting take. Communism doesn’t mean taking a vow of poverty or being a good person, but I can see how it would seem hypocritical to not spend that money funding support for labor rather than hoarding it.

    It’s probably worth exploring why people over 14 listen to his music and his politics. One interesting reason is people who resonate with the emotional core of the music, but disagree or don’t understand his politics. Another is people who genuinely feel that violence may be necessary to bring about communism. Additionally, some people feel catharsis listening to violent music/media without supporting violence.

    I think it’s worthwhile to empathize with people you disagree with. It can help better understand their viewpoint and solidify yours by contrast.

    I’m curious, do you have any recommendations for music made by leftists who aren’t rich and don’t support violence? It’s ok if not, I’m just interested in expanding my listening.


  • His response is absolutely not an appropriate response for an equal partner to make, and he knows it and knows you didn’t do it to “make him feel guilty.” He feels bad and so he wants you to feel bad, and that’s just not how adults deal with their feelings. I feel close to this because I could see myself slipping into being like this person if I weren’t devoted to being an equal partner.

    If he wants to be an equal partner, he needs to own up to his mistakes, acknowledge the emotional labor you’re doing, and come up with accommodations for his shortcomings. You have tried to accommodate for him, and that’s just taking on more emotional labor without any payoff. You’re not his mother, your his spouse, you shouldn’t have to tell him what, when, and how to take care of these things. He may need accommodations, and he can ask for help, but you can’t accommodate for him.

    That said, my spouse and I both struggle with ADHD and one way we’ve accommodated our shortcomings is we have a stamp sheet which we fill out every week with cute stamps depending on who completed the task (mine is a penguin). It’s taken a lot of the emotional labor off of both of us, and shows what we need to do or if we’re done for the week and can relax. I’m not saying that solution will help in your case, but recognizing he has a problem, needs accommodations which may involve the whole household is the second step he needs to take. The first, of course, being that he needs to stop trying to make you feel bad because he feels bad. He’s gotta cut that shit out.