• 0 Posts
  • 74 Comments
Joined 1 year ago
cake
Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

help-circle
















  • What makes you happy besides being inside? What nerdy things specifically? I like history, I would dig into all types of history stuff and eventually started going to a small local history group, that group introduced me to a degree program for historic building preservation, and that’s now how I makes a living, fixing and preserving historic buildings.

    I’m not saying you need to change who you are or find a group of strangers. I’m just saying, focus on what makes you happy, the things that get you excited and try to use those as possible outlets. You’d be surprised how many people just like you are out there, I was one of those people. The thing is, you don’t hear about them because most of them are happy in their self made isolation, that’s ok too.

    The difference is that you said you haven’t been happy in a decade. So are you really happy in your room or are you just comfortable there? If you’re not happy but comfortable, you might need to get uncomfortable to find that happiness because it sounds like your current solace in your room isn’t bringing any of it. It’s up to you though, I don’t want you to change, just find what makes you happy and put your energy towards that. If that seems like an impossible task then it’s very possible you’re depressed and you may need to seek some help that’s above the pay grade of most of us here on Lemmy.

    I am not a psychologist, these are just my experiences and opinions. I really hope they can help though or I wouldn’t have spent the time typing it out.




  • I just read your last paragraph and the recent comment and I agree there’s room for discussion in a lot of areas but people retreat to their tried and true positions because it’s comfortable and safe to think like everyone else around them. I wish you luck on your journey, self reflection and growth from a strong religious upbringing/society isn’t easy. I was raised Catholic but thankfully my parents and Catholic School weren’t the hardcore evangelical types so I was able to make my own mental/religious path pretty early in life.