Grail (capitalised)
They/Them, capitalised
Writer of the most popular Soulist Manifesto and the article about how John Wick is communist. Read My blog: https://medium.com/@viridiangrail
- 29 Posts
- 83 Comments
2·26 days agoApologies. Lemmy doesn’t seem to like posts that have both links and images.
One of the users on My discord server says someone is lying about Me. I assure you, My pronouns are not goddess. I do not appreciate being lied about, I do not appreciate being misgendered, I do not appreciate being called insane, and I do not appreciate you spreading rumours about Me across the fediverse. I have reported your comment for harassment and I expect you to leave Me alone from now on.
02·1 month agoPataphysics is a valid scientific discipline.
1·3 months agoHere are some other people discussing why monarchy in children’s cartoons is weird and bad:
https://www.reddit.com/r/CharacterRant/comments/t9fjj8/shera_sucks_at_writing_war/
https://she-raandtheprincessesofpower.fandom.com/f/p/4400000000000042124
https://www.reddit.com/r/PrincessesOfPower/comments/1bjczob/i_think_spop_has_a_very_bad_ending/
The writing of She-Ra just doesn’t make sense with regards to the whole “princess” thing, and it’s bad. I’m not the first, tenth, or hundredth person to think about this. There’s a lot of anarchists who have complained about the monarchy thing being apologism, and a lot of nerds who have complained about the writing of the political systems being illogical and confusing.
Like, they even have an anarchist character in the show. Swiftwind, the talking unicorn. He spends his free time freeing other horses from slavery at the hands of humanoids. He spouts communist propaganda every chance he gets. And yet he never ever criticises the monarchy. It’s weird!
So, just to clarify, you think that being against the monarchy is suspicious? I thought this was a progressive community where anarchist opinions like “kill monarchs” were taken as normal. But if you want the mods to take action against users for being against the monarchy, I’m sure you can suggest a rule change. Because your conspiracy theory that every anti-monarchist is the same person sure seems like the kind of liberalism that this community was created to get away from.
Of course there’s lots of australians who hate the monarchy. Australia is a very progressive country. My university has a socialist club, a marxist club, and a soulist club. My city has protests for Palestinian liberation that hundreds of people attend every two weeks. I don’t mean to say that our government is very progressive (Although our right wing party are called Liberals and they have the same platform as US Democrats). I mean to say that progressive movements in Australia are very strong. Last election I voted for the socialist party, the legalise weed party, the piracy party, and the environmentalist party. We have multiple different major socialist orgs that show up at every major protest to hand out merch, and are often working together with the various groups running the various protests. Not to mention all of the smaller action groups like the drummers and of course the antirealists.
Americans might not be used to the level of progressivism you encounter in Australia, so it can be a bit of a culture shock. For example we had a few Proud Boys over from America a few years ago. HAD. They gave up because every time they showed up to counterprotest, thousands of australians would call them Nazis and tell them to fuck off. They needed a wall of police around them or they would have been beaten up, and they were sure scared shitless. On a more mundane note, if you go to ANY professional or academic or hobbyist meeting, they will tend to open with an acknowledgement of country, talking about systemic racism against aboriginals and the legacy of whatever land the meeting takes place on. Everyone does it, it’s completely normal here.
So yes, you’re going to see a lot of us australian anarchists about if Lemmy continues to be an international forum of discussion. This isn’t Reddit, you’re not going to be insulated from the rest of the world in your Americube. And no, I am not any of those other people. I’m not even My partner.
Well, I’d like to be able to say you should fight for victims. When I was alone and felt isolated by the abuse, that was the worst My trauma got. When I had friends who were willing to stand up to My bullies, I felt empowered. But, see, My abusers had friends standing up for them, who thought they were helping victims. So knowing who’s the victim and who’s the abuser is just as important as having that drive to help others. The message of the #metoo movement is only half the equation. People who want to do the right thing but won’t think critically and learn the truth are worse than bystanders.
Thinking like a scientist is a good way to find the truth in any situation. I’ve helped other victims of harassment and rape. I always started out by thinking like a scientist. A good first test is: “Is the supposed victim actually making concrete claims?” I had an abuser who said I abused her, but it never told a single soul how. One of its partners stayed friends with Me and tried to figure out how, and never got a straight answer. Didn’t think the abuser even had one itself. It believed I had abused it, but there wasn’t a how. The dozens of people who believed it, they were operating on vibes and trust. They didn’t even try to verify the claims, because they didn’t hear the claims. There were no claims. So if you think like a scientist and try to verify the claims, you might find there’s nothing to verify and your friend is a liar. That’s a good way to do it.
Another issue is realism. My best friend was raped in the astral plane. Xe has schizophrenia, and experiences text roleplay as real. A lot of otherkin and plural systems I know experience roleplay as real, schizophrenia or no schizophrenia. But in this case xe had no options. Physically tried to extricate ximself from sexual contact, the rapist pinned xim down and kept going. Thinking everything is fine, this is just part of the roleplay. The rapist in that situation made a lot of choices after the fact that turned a misunderstanding into something unforgivable. Never apologised, used DARVO, etc. But a lot of bystanders, even in the otherkin community, didn’t care because it wasn’t “real”. The contact didn’t occur on the material plane. A lot of abuse is going to occur in ways that most people aren’t used to dealing with. A lot of abuse is going to involve schizophrenia or otherkin or these other “weird” things. You need to adapt your thinking to the context and empathise with everyone involved, understand the motivations from every perspective. Sticking to your preconceptions of realism and denying the pain a rape victim feels isn’t productive.
That’s two things I saw that got in the way of the truth, and how to deal with them. But I’m still searching for answers on a lot of the subtler reasons why people side with abusers. I’ve been getting a lot better at the practicalities of fighting abusers. Recently I exposed a pedophile ring and have been dismantling the pedophile’s cult, with a lot of success. But the lessons I learned that helped Me do that are more applicable to victims and journalists than to bystanders.
If I knew the answer to how to stop indirect harassment, I wouldn’t have PTSD. I want to tell you I know how to fix all of this, but I don’t. People are too impatient, too loyal, and too impressionable. They don’t take the time to tell truth from lie, they just trust whoever their friends are or who spoke to them first. I only know what doesn’t work, because I’ve lived it for years.
6·3 months agohttps://www.healthyhomes.org.au/news/heh1pp76ot3hpljgf9x3mp7umqndch
A new study published in The Lancet shows 6.5% of deaths in this country are attributed to cold weather, compared with 0.5% from hot weather. Most deaths will be from cardiovascular and respiratory disease, as it’s the heart and lungs that struggle when we are outside our comfort zone.
Cold weather causes twice as many deaths (proportional to population) as in Sweden. Australia’s cold weather problem is, when measured in deaths, twice as bad as Sweden’s. People DO die from extreme cold here in Australia, much worse than they do in Europe.
Medium is a blogging site, not a news site.
That screenshot is in reply to the very first comment of yours that I clicked on. Did you report those people for their transphobia?
deleted by creator
My gods, I clicked on your link and the instant transphobia on Hexbear hit Me like a brick in the face
transphobia
2·4 months agoI do believe in erasing the experiences of minorities. If I were living in Germany in 1939, I’d erase the experiences of the Jew living in My basement while talking to the Gestapo. I erase My own experiences all the time. I misgender Myself to stay in the closet to avoid violence. Never been out as goddessgender at work or school.
If what you are advocating is total exposure of all information having to do with minorities, you’re talking about actions that will get people killed. That’s why Republicans are trying to pass laws to require ID for Pornhub, you know. They want to know all about the lived experiences of gay and trans people by analysing our porn habits, so they can do violence against us. What you’re speaking in favour of is genocide.
I am glad it was just a mistake, but it was a mistake that you prevented Me from fixing the easy way. I couldn’t report the comment, couldn’t reply. So I made this post, and had to put up with being grilled on My pronoun usage and told My identity is evil by various people. I didn’t defend any oppressive systems, I outlined a strategy to just shut up for a few months until it’s safe to act again without causing a genocide. I didn’t break rule 2. But you did break rules 5 and 8. Shouting down leftism. No open discussion. I did everything I could to play by the rules and disagree with you politely. Maybe instead of making an exception for Me, it’s time to actually enforce your community’s rules by not being so ban-happy with everyone. What happened today was bound to happen eventually and it’s going to keep happening as long as nobody’s allowed to have an open discussion about the election on your community. Everyone who disagrees being banned is not an open discussion.
Cool, thank you for the pronoun support and also I’m reporting you for saying My gender identity shouldn’t exist. Your comment is simultaneously very inclusive and not at all accepting.
If being the only anti-biden community on Lemmy means misgendering trans people then maybe there shouldn’t be an anti-Biden community. If somebody is going to host a community like that, it should be someone who can do so without transphobia.
I think it’s very simple. If you spend all day thinking about gay dick, your body is going to react. Normally only gay mascs and horny women spend all day thinking about gay dick. Straight men don’t have a reaction to gay dick because they don’t condition that response. They don’t think about gay dick for long enough for Pavlov to kick in. Homophobes condition themselves by constantly thinking about sex (hot; unconditioned stimulus) and gay (conditioned stimulus) at the same time. If they just quit thinking about gay sex all day, their fetish would go away. But that would require being less homophobic, and they can’t. Then they get worried that they’re gay, because they like dick, so they assume being gay is what they have. And since what they have sucks, they assume being gay sucks, which makes them more homophobic.
A similar thing happens in POCD, or Pedophile Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The fear of being a pedophile conditions an association between children and arousal, which self-reinforces in a vicious cycle. Fortunately, most people with POCD are not fascists, so they’re capable of having a normal response to it in which they don’t proceed to deliberately indulge in the association. In order for someone to be homophobic and suffer the same thing with gay thoughts, their judgement has to already be compromised, which produces a more toxic reaction.