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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • (Not a woman): my partner does not like receiving oral sex or other kinds of sex where she is mostly passive/receiving, because she doesn’t like feeling put on the spot and obligated to react.

    If your partner has been not getting much from sex for a long time now, then she is also probably feeling a lot of pressure to change and behave right and react as expected which would be not pleasant for her.

    Maybe ask her if she wants to play a game where she reads a book out loud (sexy book or bit sexy book) or play a cozy video game or some other activity where you get to enjoy yourself playing with her body for potentially a long time, and she has something else to pay attention to besides her own sexual performance? That would probably also go well with deep toys on low power as well.

    Just, maybe avoid Call of Duty for this one. It has to be a lazy activity she’s doing. If her attention is successfully diverted 100% to the point the sex is an irritating distraction then that’s not any fun for anybody







  • <not autistic person>

    The way I use those words:

    A reason is a cause for an event or a thought process that caused a decision.

    An excuse is one of:

    • a true reason why a person did a bad thing
    • an explanation (true or false) why the cause of events or decisions was somebody else’s actions, not the speaker’s actions
    • an explanation (true or false) pretending to be a reason, that isn’t actually the true cause of the event or decision

    If I said, “don’t give me any of your excuses” to somebody, I would be meaning all of:

    • something bad happened and I think it’s your fault
    • I want you to agree with me that it’s your fault and accept blame
    • I think you have a pattern of not seeing (or not admitting) that your actions cause bad things, and that’s happening again now

    This is a bunch of very negative stuff to be meaning. It could be whoever said that is an asshole, blind, or unfair. If they treat everybody with negative shit like this that’s likely and there’s just no winning with such a person.

    I actually have said stuff like “don’t give me excuses” to my kids. I think I’m not an asshole. When I said it, I thought my kid was flailing about doing dumb shit without thinking. What I meant for my kid was, “I want for you to start thinking about how a chain of events fits together, and I want you to accept you have the ability and the responsibility to see a bad outcome forming, and to take actions to make a better outcome instead.”







  • That would be super awesome if navigation apps had profiles.

    Like, when I’m driving my car I go the speed of traffic or maybe a little fast.

    And when I’m driving my motorhome I go 65mph tops and really slow up hills.

    But totally nobody does this. Even the RV Trip Wizard app (built around Here navigation) makes you choose between “I drive XXX speed on average” (ignoring actual speed limits and conditions, just assume constant speed) or just assume normal traffic.

    Why can’t they recognize that different drivers drive differently???