Time heals all it doesn’t kill outright 😄. Not sure how late of a bloomer you are (like we talking 30s? 40s?) but I’ve had relationships last years that I got over in weeks and relationships that lasted months that took me years to get past.

What makes it sting for me is when I feel like I wasn’t given a fair shake. I loved this person and I thought they loved me but it turned out they didn’t even try.

However, the bottom line for me and in your case is that we never would’ve even gotten that far if the other person didn’t hold a modicum of feeling for us. Everyone has their own hang up’s and perspectives that you may not understand until you’ve been there or see it play out. But still, don’t ever forget that if this person was truly correct for you, they would’ve valued patience and communication to work it out.

Even if you can identify where you fucked up, unless it was violence, they would’ve at least fought with you about it if they really cared about building a relationship. For me it was saying “I love you” on mdma like a month into dating. It was true I did love her but I’m the odd one out for always being sure of my feelings and should’ve given her more time (she even gave me the chance to take it back the next morning but I was a fool in love). If she was honest with me about how she was feeling we could’ve worked it out but she didn’t and left the country, leaving me to wallow for longer than we had even been together.

Long ass comment but imma say one more thing: every big love of my life has felt as though it was completely irreplaceable… until the next one comes along. Don’t let that feeling make you give up and don’t let it keep you in a bad relationship. Not only will you find someone that great again, they’ll be even better. I promise.