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Does it have to be food-related?
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Maybe a new journal and pen? A coffee or tea? A gift card to treat herself?
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Some people don’t want gifts like that, and I’d say respect their wishes. It might make the situation worse otherwise.
Maybe just play it as “I’m running out for a coffee. Let me get you one too.”
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I can’t read the original text, so I’m mostly replying to your edit.
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Doing something nice isn’t an asshole move
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Doing nothing isn’t an asshole move
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It’s not a lose-lose scenario
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You’re not an asshole
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This planet is better with you on it
Okay now that I’ve got the obvious stuff out of the way, DON’T LISTEN TO THE HATERS! The vast amount of replies were positive and encouraging. You obviously edited your post, which is a bit of an overreaction, but I get it. I’m sensitive too and I genuinely think it’s a good thing (mostly when I see that quality in others 🤷♂️). Empathetic people like you literally improve the world, for everyone. But ignore the bitter people who do the opposite and want everyone else to be miserable too. Even if you had no impact, you should do good things because they are true and pure and worth it, no matter how the recipient responds and no matter how other people view it. They’ll also make you feel good! Just keep being you…
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Play Lego with the kids while she goes for a nap or walk.
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If you found out she has gestational diabetes from anyone else but her, and that she’s having a hard time, let it be. If she told you herself in an honest moment of comfort, tell her “I’m so sorry. That sucks.” And let her vent. The last thing she wants is for anyone to make a big deal about it, solve her problems, or choose her diet.
Bring in donuts again. Seriously. She’s an adult and can choose to eat them.
Bring in a more health conscious option. Once again, she can choose to eat it or not.
You’re trying to find an option when most likely you shouldn’t know about her personal health issues in the first place. Unless you have a very close relationship that you aren’t letting us know about, you shouldn’t be trying to figure out something to give her to make her feel better. She could very easily feel ostracized for her pregnancy in the first place. Employers arent super cool with pregnancies, let alone pregnancies that are in any magnitude more difficult.
What makes will make her feel better is a coworker that respects her space and private health matters. Don’t treat her as special. Treat her as human.
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Get her a book, maybe from the Diskworld series, its great for big and small.
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The smallest thing I can think about is probably one of those rice grains with a poem written on it.
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An 8 ball is always appreciated.
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I found the “5 love/appreciation languages” to be one HELL of an eye-opener:
It hadn’t dawned on me that trinkets/gifts could be a primary love-language, for anyone, ever,
AND it explained the behaviour of some people I knew.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages
Read the 5 types on there, & see IF the person you’re interested in helping has some distinct lopsidedness on those 5 ways.
THEN figure out what to do to help 'em.
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