Well DT, I got the place… and at the original rent no less (thanks, sloppy REAs!). Payment has gone through so it’s official.
I’m relieved but also… now that it’s real my heart is also filled with incredible, crushing sadness. I know it’s going to be good for me to downsize and cull and open up my life to new options but I am so, so, sad to have to let go of my comforts here under such ugly circumstances. I can’t even bear to look at my plants, it breaks my heart. Such is life though, isn’t it. Change does not always happen the way we want it to. (and this isn’t by far the worst experience I’ve had having to leave a house)
My plan for tonight is to just make a meta-list of tasks so that I don’t feel too overwhelmed, but after that I’m going to just let the emotions flow through and watch an episode of Shrinking and take it easy. No stiffer up lip tonight. The work will start tomorrow. I know I’ll get through this, there is joy on the other side. ❤️🩹
Honestly again I’m more than happy to look after them in the interim until they either follow you and/or for when you find them a new home (I promise I won’t eat them).
I appreciate the offer! But many are not long for this world anyway (biannuals/annuals that i didn’t bother replacing).
I’ve got several offers of good homes for the big plants from friends and colleagues (helps when most of them are into plants heh). Could even take the manzano to the office courtyard. I’m pretty fond of that lil dude
Sending you my love, I am glad that you have a place to move to.
I’m sorry about your plants, it’s difficult to let go, especially when the circumstances are so lame. But there will be a time when you will have plants again to pour your love and care into. This is a temporary stop on your journey, and you have already proven yourself to be capable, intelligent, and motivated. Trust yourself, you are awesome.
Wherever you end up, you’re always always welcome in the DT here. And we’ll always be here rooting for you and waving our flags for you 💜
<3 thank you for this heartwarming message. Like literally heartwarming; I felt relieved being reminded that of course I’ll have future opportunities to have a little garden again. The housing market may be bleak but I have freedom and options up my sleeve that I never had before…
It’s true :) change is just a bit painful, and through it we sometimes have to let things go. But we also open ourselves up to new experiences and places, opportunities.
There will be plants in your future, I am willing this into being for you :D
Haha, I wish I could feel celebratory but it’s more a blunt/muted sense of relief. For now I’m just enjoying relaxing to some tunes and tucking into dinner in bed. Got some smoked salmon in the fridge as a treat for tomorrow am.
I’m going to make an early start on culling and packing because my brain will need to feel like it’s doing something productive otherwise it will eat itself. I think I’ll sleep alright tonight at least 😊
What kind of plants and what sort of setup? (Not asking for anything doxable, just an idea of what you could be working with in the new place.)
There’s a lot of creative ways to have plants, even ones that are just indoor plants. There are also small hydroponic indoor garden kits that could fit on a bench top or windowsill for herbs, bonsai, or air plants.
(I’m so sorry, I’m not good with emotional support and tend to be a fixer but I understand if this is not helpful or wanted)
I can probably take most of my indoor plants over, there’s a decent south-facing window ledge. Bedroom is west facing (ugh) without a ledge. The outdoor ones are gonna have to go as they’re not suitable indoors esp without so much light
This is a really small apartment so there won’t be much bench top space. It’s alright tbh, I’ve been neglecting my plants the last few months due to exhaustion and I won’t have that much time over the next few months either. I’ll head to a friend’s place to garden if I need a green fix
Well DT, I got the place… and at the original rent no less (thanks, sloppy REAs!). Payment has gone through so it’s official.
I’m relieved but also… now that it’s real my heart is also filled with incredible, crushing sadness. I know it’s going to be good for me to downsize and cull and open up my life to new options but I am so, so, sad to have to let go of my comforts here under such ugly circumstances. I can’t even bear to look at my plants, it breaks my heart. Such is life though, isn’t it. Change does not always happen the way we want it to. (and this isn’t by far the worst experience I’ve had having to leave a house)
My plan for tonight is to just make a meta-list of tasks so that I don’t feel too overwhelmed, but after that I’m going to just let the emotions flow through and watch an episode of Shrinking and take it easy. No stiffer up lip tonight. The work will start tomorrow. I know I’ll get through this, there is joy on the other side. ❤️🩹
Honestly again I’m more than happy to look after them in the interim until they either follow you and/or for when you find them a new home (I promise I won’t eat them).
Second this!
I appreciate the offer! But many are not long for this world anyway (biannuals/annuals that i didn’t bother replacing).
I’ve got several offers of good homes for the big plants from friends and colleagues (helps when most of them are into plants heh). Could even take the manzano to the office courtyard. I’m pretty fond of that lil dude
Glad there’s a plan it’s such a roller coaster with plants :)
Oh kitten 😿 let it out and be free
As difficult as it is, it really is such good news. 🖤
so many hugs
Sending you my love, I am glad that you have a place to move to.
I’m sorry about your plants, it’s difficult to let go, especially when the circumstances are so lame. But there will be a time when you will have plants again to pour your love and care into. This is a temporary stop on your journey, and you have already proven yourself to be capable, intelligent, and motivated. Trust yourself, you are awesome.
Wherever you end up, you’re always always welcome in the DT here. And we’ll always be here rooting for you and waving our flags for you 💜
<3 thank you for this heartwarming message. Like literally heartwarming; I felt relieved being reminded that of course I’ll have future opportunities to have a little garden again. The housing market may be bleak but I have freedom and options up my sleeve that I never had before…
💜💜💜
It’s true :) change is just a bit painful, and through it we sometimes have to let things go. But we also open ourselves up to new experiences and places, opportunities.
There will be plants in your future, I am willing this into being for you :D
I’m so glad to hear you were able to get a place but sad for your plants.
I’d offer to take them up but I’ve have not had a good time with plants myself and I’m sure they don’t like me back due to neglect.
Celebrate tonight and over the weekend.
I hope you’re able to sleep better now that you don’t have to worry about a place.
Haha, I wish I could feel celebratory but it’s more a blunt/muted sense of relief. For now I’m just enjoying relaxing to some tunes and tucking into dinner in bed. Got some smoked salmon in the fridge as a treat for tomorrow am.
I’m going to make an early start on culling and packing because my brain will need to feel like it’s doing something productive otherwise it will eat itself. I think I’ll sleep alright tonight at least 😊
Here’s to a new chapter for you. 🥂
What kind of plants and what sort of setup? (Not asking for anything doxable, just an idea of what you could be working with in the new place.)
There’s a lot of creative ways to have plants, even ones that are just indoor plants. There are also small hydroponic indoor garden kits that could fit on a bench top or windowsill for herbs, bonsai, or air plants.
(I’m so sorry, I’m not good with emotional support and tend to be a fixer but I understand if this is not helpful or wanted)
I can probably take most of my indoor plants over, there’s a decent south-facing window ledge. Bedroom is west facing (ugh) without a ledge. The outdoor ones are gonna have to go as they’re not suitable indoors esp without so much light
This is a really small apartment so there won’t be much bench top space. It’s alright tbh, I’ve been neglecting my plants the last few months due to exhaustion and I won’t have that much time over the next few months either. I’ll head to a friend’s place to garden if I need a green fix
Ah yeah that could be challenging.
Congratulations!
Im sorry it’s such a big change. Having some time to let it out can be incredibly cathartic