Relevant to your interests: As a straight, male mountain biker, I swear like three quarters of the cute women I meet and get interested in are lesbians. (And the other 25% are out biking with their husband, boyfriend, etc.)
That kind of thing happened to me in college turns out I’m just trans with a spot on gaydar
That’s why I bring the cute women mountain biking, and then they complain when we have to bike up a hill…
Don’t they all live in Lesbos?
ON Lesvos. It’s an island.
it amazes me how people find partners outside of big cities
How would one find a partner in a big city?
Bars
Shared interest groups
Your friend introduced you
In that order
And I think specifically bars, not clubs. You won’t be able to have a conversation with someone in a club, though if you are stand out attractive, that probably doesn’t matter
If you’re a drinker, sure
You don’t have to drink, it’s just that’s where people are.
Most big cities have dedicated places for finding a partner. For butch lesbians, it’s Home Depot. For everyone else, try a bar maybe?
That also amazes me.
My friend actually met his husband at a speed dating event at a local video game bar called Battle and Brew. This was in metro Atlanta, which depending on where you live may it may not be considered a big city lol.
My pie is reversed but I’m a cis dude.
Befriend them
You finally meet one who lives within 30 miles of you and she’s femme4femme
why are you researching their natural habitats?
Transbian - you heard it here first!
I kind of dread the day I stop being appealing to gay men and start being appealing to straight men. Well, less the latter, I doubt I’ll ever pass so well as to be appealing to straight men… During the brief unfortunate time I was stupid enough to look for connections, I had 0 interest from women, the only interest I had was from a few strictly gay not bi men. I seriously doubt transitioning is making me more appealing to women, so I feel like I’m slowly removing my dating pool as I become someone I like more. Well, it’s for the best anyways, dating/hooking up was a disaster and I should have known better then to try. (It’s not a problem that women aren’t interested in me, it’s not something I’m upset about, it’s also for the best given some brain bugs I have)
Sorry for trauma dumping in random places across Lemmy, it’s just nice to get the thoughts out of my head and into text sometimes
