• The Snark Urge@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Jokes aside, I’d love to figure out how to help my kid with this. Sometimes shit just isn’t in the cards and it causes a lot of pain between us.

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        9 months ago

        Nah dude from the parent’s perspective this shit ain’t always that funny lmao… I enjoy the humour but I also take it seriously. I’m grateful that so many people with ADHD make memes and shitposts about their experiences because it helps me to empathise with my kid.

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          9 months ago

          I’m with you. My kid has adhd and I read these comics, not for the humor, but to get an idea of what’s going on in his head.

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            9 months ago

            Thank you for doing that. Thank you for making an effort to understand him. Like a parent should! Thank you so much! I genuinely mean it. 💖

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              9 months ago

              You’re welcome, but I’m no angel! His ADHD frustrates the absolute hell out of me. Trying to play with him results in a shift in activity every 5 minutes. It’s painful when I get invested in drawing Godzilla pictures only to have to go play pretend Minecraft 5 minutes in.

              Reading these is a survival mechanism for me!

              On a side note: I’ve realized I share sooooooo many symptoms with him. Currently in progress getting tested for adult ADHD.

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                9 months ago

                I should get tested as well, even as an adult.

                As a kid it was really bad, and affected my entire schooling negatively (I was the kid who would ace every test and quiz but still end up with a C because I turned in zero homework assignments…gifted classes but struggling to make the honor roll)…but my parents were worried about both the stigma of a diagnosis as well as the fear that I’d get prescribed something that would turn me into a zombie. Probably both unfounded fears but that’s why they never got me tested and growing up, only having them for perspective, that’s what I thought as well.

                Basically they tried to make me afraid of getting a diagnosis in order to get me to “straighten up” and do my homework.

                Looking back, I really wish they’d have looked into it and at least got me evaluated. If there was something I could take that would’ve improved my focus, it probably would have been a huge help in my academics.

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      9 months ago

      It depends on what specifically you’re trying to get him to do, but something I’ve found very helpful is setting up the environment in a way that will lower the “initiation energy” of something to make it easier to start doing. YMMV on what does or doesn’t work for him, my spouse and I have found labels and organizing by task to be a huge help in making it easier to start things because now I have to devote 0% of my brain power to wandering around finding everything I need and staying on task, and I don’t need to root through drawers to find it.

      Sensory adjustments to the environment might also be useful, like changing light levels, noise blocking headphones/ear plugs, or playing white noise/natural noises. And it sounds hippy dippy as fuck, but time in outdoor green spaces has been shown to improve symptoms in kids with ADHD, so if you guys aren’t regularly spending time outside or at the park it could be a good to incorporate it.

      You’re already doing a lot more than many parents just by trying to understand and empathize instead of beating it out of him, so fist bump from a former neurodivergent kid. 🤜