Yeah that kind of situation is tricky, any time one party wants something and is willing to spend a lot of resources to get it and another couldn’t care less, of course the person who personally cares is gonna do more work more enthusiastically than the person doing it for other reasons. It leads to a weird imbalance that can be tough to navigate, especially when the person that wants it can’t do it alone. That generalizes to tons of situations too, not just hetero holidays