• Nate Cox@programming.dev
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    5 months ago

    I had to stop using Next Door entirely.

    I set my neighborhood up years ago because I thought it was just a fantastic idea for a place to reach out to people who actually live near you. Reality has not borne that out.

    ND seems like the place to go if you hate yourself and your neighbors and you really want everyone to know about it. It was like 70% busybodies and paranoid old people, 20% lost pet reminders, and 10% people being horrible to each other via the comments on the other 90%.

    Also, I am now painfully aware of how much people hate the homeless. Just loathe and despise them for the crime of existing; while blissfully unaware that it’s just because they’re scared of how close they are to being homeless themselves.

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      5 months ago

      What keeps me checking every so often is the 1% of the time that it’s actually something that people are concerned about.

      Like a legitimate garage/car break in, or “Hey, does anyone know who we contact to deal with ___”

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        5 months ago

        I think getting the moderator mails was just too much. Like it’s a platform filled with people racing to the bottom and you get to see all the worst as a direct feed.

        I don’t know how Reddit mods do it.

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      5 months ago

      Meanwhile the one I was in out in the country was all potlucks and ‘how do I do this?’ and notes on roaming pets (neighbor had a Great Pyrenees that loved to visit everyone on the mountain).

      I wonder if the madness cuts in at a certain density.

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        5 months ago

        I think its moreso that people in more rural/wilderness regions have far more reasons to use that type of app. Meanwhile some dude in the suburbs of LA is more likely using it out of boredom at best, basically the less general utility it has the less sane it gets.

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          Also, you can’t really advertise a “potluck” in a larger town. Randos are just going to come and grab food and leave.

          The problem with Nextdoor is that you can’t exclude the angry loud people who detract from the neighborhood. For a real potluck, you just don’t invite them. Your friend group should not be open by default.