This might be outta left field (far left, of course lol) but I’m hurting real bad right now and need some fine fellows to lend moral support. I lost my fiance four years ago and still struggling with the damn bottle(and really don’t want to anymore). What is the most positive, uplifting thing you can say to someone struggling on getting back to equilibrium? I need some solidarity right now <3

  • ComradeSharkfucker@lemmy.mlEnglish
    28·
    5 days ago

    This is my cat Bean, she is the best thing in my entire world.

    I hope she can atleast bring some good feels.

    We found her in a parking lot when she was just a baby, she was sick and had an injured leg but now she is very healthy and spoiled. I don’t know if this is encouraging or helpful to hear but, I think living on despite how awful the world can be and staying healthy lets us be there to help the little creatures of the world who cannot always help themselves. She keeps me going is all I mean.

  • toarmspunies [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    18·
    5 days ago

    I have two dumb things that I hope bring joy:

    1. Mario Party 4/5/6 are being decompiled and ported into a singular PC game with online multiplayer functionality
    2. I saw the sweet apartment kitty that I was worried had something happen to it in a window happily snoozing near the front of my complex today and found out the person living there adopted it about a week ago
  • AnarchoCummunist [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    12·
    5 days ago

    This too shall pass. Right there with you, 16 years clean from Heroin. Keep WANTING it. It’s the root of what will keep you going and becoming the version of you that you desire to see.

    • wolfinthewoods [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      1·
      4 days ago

      Damn, congrats man. H isn’t easy yo beat either. Yeah, this time more than all my other times combined I want it BAD. I’m so exhausted with detox, hospitals and (sometimes) cops. It’s fucking beyond shitty and I have to be there for my dog too which males me disappointed in my actions when he doesn’t understand why dad isn’t around.

    • wolfinthewoods [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      8·
      5 days ago

      Goddamn ain’t that the truth. When you are going through detox you can barely sleep, if at all. It’s one of the (many) side effects of alcohol withdrawl that is a damn killer. I miss my sleep so much. Tonight should hopefully be better than the last few days since I’ve tapered off enough, but it’ll still be shitty until I’m fully detoxed.

  • InternetLefty [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    9·
    5 days ago

    I don’t know the first thing about what you’re going through, but I’ve always found that whenever I felt that life was out of complexity, mystery, and beauty, I was dead wrong. May you enjoy your newfound health and find joy and peace soon will

  • AOCapitulator [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    8·
    5 days ago

    I found a new audiobook series I really really like so far called Children of Time, its about humanity developing a virus that can uplift creatures and cause them to evolve sapience, and through some particular circumstances it ends up being a species of jumping spiders, we see them evolve and develop and create a civilization, I can send you the audiobook file somehow I’m sure, if you wanted it!

  • ConcreteHalloween [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    6·
    5 days ago

    I’ve been increasingly finding myself able to just enjoy silly little moments. Like looking at a nice tree, eating a good sandwich, seeing a bird or something silly. Gives me a nice Zen feeling that makes me feel a bit more content and happy with life.

  • UrsineApathy [any, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    3·
    4 days ago

    The first couple of days of sobriety were always so strange for me. I’d try to go to sleep (or more accurately stare at a fucking wall or tv for hours until I eventually succumbed to it) with an unfocused but overwhelming feeling of dread and anxiety, but the first few days waking up without being hungover were so awesome and energizing. I’d be tired as everloving shit because of the miserable sleep and chemical changes, but somehow still feel better and more capable than I did in years. That’s all to say, I’m sorry I missed the boat to help you last night, but I hope you have an awesome fucking morning because you’ve earned it.

    There will be good days and bad days and the nature of the beast changes as the days turn to weeks turn to months but every day gets a little bit easier. I started drinking for somewhat similar reasons to you, but I don’t want to assume I know your struggles so I won’t say anything more. Even so, it might be hard to see when times get tough, but life is still better in every way without the drink. Stay strong friend.

    • wolfinthewoods [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      2·
      4 days ago

      Thank you, friend. I’m trying to make the best of the morning. Yeah, that overwhelming sense of impending doom and anxiety really fucks with your head hard. That was my night all night long, especially since, once again, I fucked myself on rent this month and am still $185 short. But I’m optimistic. If I have I’ll sell my old Honda. It’s not worth having without a place lol. And yeah, once you finally get past the detox and feel fucking healthy and human again it’s a sunshine and motherfucking rainbows feeling. I can’t wait. I was so sick from last night that today I’m still having to ween myself, but I hope today will be the last day I have to. Currently slowly drinking a beer so I stop dry heaving and shaking like a damn leaf. Feeling a bit better after finishing most of the beer. We’ll see how the day goes. Luckily I have my food stamps and can chug vitamin water all day and finally eat something (when I’m drinking I barely eat, if at all). Thanks for the support ;)

      • hellinkilla [they/them, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
        4·
        5 days ago

        no comrade, you can die of alcohol detox. you need benzos to prevent that.

        it’s not like opioid withdrawal that you can just be tough and get through.

        if you want to continue in wd, you should go to a trusted hospital/clinic (soon, not tomorrow) to get treated, or buy/borrow from a trusted source. depending where you live you might be able to find something called like “community outpatient alcohol withdrawal” which is where they give you benzos and send you home rather than making you stay in-patient. but that probably won’t be available immediately which is what you need to be safe.

        • wolfinthewoods [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
          3·
          5 days ago

          Oh yeah, I know. I wasn’t aware about the benzos though, I know that benzos and alcohol are the two drugs that can kill you detoxing. I just got released from the hospital five days ago. Once they release you they recommend weening (if you’re not going to a facility for detox after release from the hospital) I’m just about done weening, I’m just still going over the last hump right now. I’ve had to ween myself a few times, but yeah, it’s fucking tough. If it wasn’t for the fact that I have my dog and nobody to look after him in this town I probably would have done a longer medically supervised stint. But unfortunately I had to do it this way since I have to also take care of him. He’s basically my kid and there’s no way for me to leave him somewhere sadly :'(

  • PurrLure [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    1·
    4 days ago

    I saw a cybertruck on the road earlier today and the driver’s door was visibly rusty from a distance.

    They’ve been out like what, 1-2 years now? Pfft point-and-laugh-1point-and-laugh-2 dumpster-fire