I learned about the Friend through This video I believe it was a really good deep dive and respectful to the friend who not only experienced hate for the the Friend‘s gender identify at the time but later historians attempts to discredit the Friend‘s identity. Also Public Universal Friend wished “referred only to “the Public Universal Friend” or short forms such as “the Friend” or “P.U.F.”, and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries” so I’m using these terms instead of they.