My daughter is ~2 months shy of being 21. Her boyfriend is 46. For reference, I’m 45. She introduced him to my wife and me about half a year ago. Since then I’ve had to bond with him in order to maintain the great relationship I have with my daughter and also keep an eye out for her. But it’s tough, uncomfortable. It is what it is. As we say here “să fie ea sănătoasă” - as long as she’s healthy (health is the most important thing).
Honestly, of all the things to focus on “we couldn’t talk about twenty year old popular media” is something you might want to spend some introspection time on.
I think you’re assuming a bit too much (or, more specifically, too little) about the difficulties I’ve encountered.
Could say the same to you, given that popular media was your go-to…
Oh, so you just can’t relate to current events, politics, various hobbies, classical art, etc then to the point of having nothing to talk about with someone?
Or just remember what it was like to be ten years younger?
Can’t even watch new shows or whatever together?
Fair enough.
If that’s enough for you, then that’s enough for you. But trying to impose your standards on others is not ok.
Different people have different needs and interests, that should have been obvious by now.