Gender experts of hexbear, please help me understand wallet gendering

It’s just a frigging wallet monke-beepboop

  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    3 hours ago

    I think people have already dissected this wallet’s thing, but I was just thinking the other day I want to get a more feminine wallet. Definitely gendered.

    • doublepepperoni [none/use name]@hexbear.netOP
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      2 hours ago

      I searched for “women’s wallet” on AliExpress and these were the top results. Now these I would agree do look feminine though I wouldn’t mind that cool shade of red on the bottom row

      Sidenote: the search immediately suggested “women sexy toy” when I typed in “women.” Not sure if that would take me to dildos or anime figurines

  • conditional_soup@lemm.ee
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    8 hours ago

    Oh shit, I can explain this. Kinda. I can’t explain how we got to wallets implying gender, but this wallet looks like it’s bigger and possibly has a zipper (just guessing by thickness). Apparently it’s a thing for girl wallets to be dummy thic; I’d guess because a purse can carry more than a pocket can. Maybe that’s how we got here?

    Personal anecdote time, back when $20 meant something, I stuffed a $20 bill in my pocket and ended up losing it. My SO was rightfully pissed at me about it, because we could not afford to just lose $20. After a bit of talking it over, we arrived the the problem being that I just had too much shit in my little wallet, so we decided that the best way forward would be to get me a big, big wallet to hold all my shit. I actually got some light teasing about it at work, mostly from the Gen X folks, about it being a girl wallet (am cismale), but it didn’t bother me because I’m not stupid and I’ve got other shit to worry about besides whether my wallet is apparently gender normative. And besides, the teasing honestly wasn’t that bad, I took it affectionately and started saying “yeah, it’s my MANifold”; a dumb joke that got a few chuckles, and that was basically the end of it. It’s been over a decade and I still use giant fucking wallets to this day because they’re really useful for carrying a bunch of stuff in an organized way.

  • OldSoulHippie [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    8 hours ago

    I use one of those things that people who carry purses use to hold their cards and money in as a wallet. Sleek and it doesn’t hold a lot so no clutter.

  • ClimateStalin [they/them, he/him]@hexbear.net
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    9 hours ago

    I’m not even gonna be obtuse and say I don’t know the difference between a “men’s wallet” and a “women’s wallet.” If you ask me to picture those two things this is what will come into my mind:

    Men’s wallet

    Women’s wallet

    Men’s wallets tend to be smaller, intended to fit in a pocket, and are usually black or brown. Women’s wallets tend to be bulkier and wider, with more buckles and zippers, intended to fit in a purse or carried in your hand with a wrist strap, and are often bright colors instead of just black or brown.

    So my problem isn’t even so much “are wallets gendered” as it is “that is not a feminine wallet”. It’s a black, small wallet that could fit in a man’s front pocket and has a chain to attach to your pants. That is a men’s wallet!

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      4 hours ago

      Apparently I am this obtuse

      I bought a plain black wallet at walmart because idgaf.

      Apparently this is a “man’s wallet” and its completely reasonable for my coworkers to ponder why I have borrowed my husband’s wallet for [insert coworker bonding activity]

      I did not get this memo. Apparently I need a guide to acting “normal” and like a ciswoman even though I am a ciswoman. My debit card couldn’t care less about where it lives.

      I don’t really think this comment has anything to do with yours. I just felt like venting. Sorry.

      All wallets remind me of vaginas. They are flappy things, and you put stuff in them.

        • doublepepperoni [none/use name]@hexbear.netOP
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          4 hours ago

          Oh yeah, I know. I’ve had brightly coloured wallets, phone cases, etc. Of course, the problem with anything brightly coloured that goes in and out of your pocket a lot is that over time it eventually gets very grody looking

      • ClimateStalin [they/them, he/him]@hexbear.net
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        4 hours ago

        Often! Tend to be! You can certainly get a “men’s style” wallet that’s a bright color, or a “women’s style” wallet that’s black or brown.

        These aren’t firm categories, there’s a whole spectrum of wallets. But there are general style trends that you can identify as “men’s” or “women’s” wallets.

  • AntifaSuperWombat [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    11 hours ago

    Gender experts of hexbear, please help me understand wallet gendering

    Sure I’ll help you a bit: The wallet is actually male-presenting. The reason for that is that it has a chain, which means it’s supposed to be put into your pockets, which only male-presenting pants have in large enough sizes, and not into a purse or bag, which are female-presenting of course.

    Just another case of cis people being bad at gender. pathetic