I don’t think people even pay much attention to voice when they perceive gender when they have visual feedback instead and in personal interactions social habits and preconceptions define most people’s approach to gender performance more than anything you do frankly. Center your experience on your own self-actualization in a way that’s pleasant to you and people who would understand you will perceive you in how you express yourself in your own language.
My mom told me that she never noticed my voice change, even though I tried to make it as obvious as possible for her. Cis people’s perception is just completely different than ours.
Is your mom someone you see often? I only noticed how much my boyfriend’s voice had changed from testosterone after watching an old video of him, so I think maybe changes like that can be harder to notice if you spend a lot of time together.
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I don’t think people even pay much attention to voice when they perceive gender when they have visual feedback instead and in personal interactions social habits and preconceptions define most people’s approach to gender performance more than anything you do frankly. Center your experience on your own self-actualization in a way that’s pleasant to you and people who would understand you will perceive you in how you express yourself in your own language.
My mom told me that she never noticed my voice change, even though I tried to make it as obvious as possible for her. Cis people’s perception is just completely different than ours.
Is your mom someone you see often? I only noticed how much my boyfriend’s voice had changed from testosterone after watching an old video of him, so I think maybe changes like that can be harder to notice if you spend a lot of time together.