• OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    Virginity is fake and made up.

    Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.

    It also isn’t a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.

    Rant over.

    • Bongles@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      To be fair, Someone that has “more orgasms than average” saying not to worry about it is like a rich guy saying money doesn’t buy happiness.

  • Storm@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Look. It’s pointless to compare yourself to others. Everyone does things at their own pace, on their own time. Who cares if someone has lost their virginity before you have? Genuinely, it doesn’t fucking matter. Life your own life, and speak your own truth.

    • Hyggyldy@sffa.community
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      1 year ago

      The virginity is less of an issue than 31 years of loneliness. Like, people say you don’t need a relationship to be happy and that’s true, but it really doesn’t fucking help in the slightest. It’s just a pointless platitude from people who don’t understand the pain.