It has long been the case that American women are generally more liberal than American men. But among young Americans, this gender gap has widened into an enormous rift: According to recent Gallup polling, there is aĀ 30-point differencebetween the number of women age 18ā€“30 who self-identify as liberal and the number of men in that demographic who do the same.

Thatā€™s largely because young women have gottenĀ muchĀ more liberal, while young men have stayed ideologically more consistentā€”or, according to other analyses, become more conservativeĀ and anti-feminist. (Of course, not every person identifies as a man or woman. But gender roles still play a big part in shaping our lives and politics, and in the context of this column, I am focusing mostly on the vastĀ majority of AmericansĀ who identify as one or the other.) Itā€™s not happening just here either; the political divide between the sexes is a trend thatĀ researchers are observingĀ in some other countries too.

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    As a relatively young woman, I like being treated as an equal in a partnership, rather than as a utility in a relationship. Iā€™d rather be alone than a grown adultā€™s nanny. This is a wild idea to many young men who have trouble respecting women, but insist they are the most respectful to women because they hold the door open sometimes.

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    Well when who you are is being directly attacked, of course itā€™s going to radicalize you (Iā€™m not using that word in a negative manner either). But look at at what is happening around reproductive rights from abortion, to birth control, to maternity leave, etc. These affect a core of a person and you have a large group of people saying ā€œwe want to control this for youā€.

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      My exact first thought. After decades of (uneven) improvement, womenā€™s rights are globally taking a massive hit. No wonder women are becoming more left leaning.

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    Isnā€™t this the one that was shown to have biased data due to opt-in polling? Randomized polling shows less of a divide and more liberal views amongst young people. I canā€™t find it right now though

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    Modern feminism is evil af. If they wanna accomplish things without causing men to hate them, they need to rethink their strategy. Else, the internet will keep saying that women want the benefits of men but with the accountability of a child. /S

    Canā€™t they go back to the first waves of feminism? That seemed less cringe

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      The problem with sarcastic right-wing rhetoric is that lots of people miss the sarcasm.

      Even if the /s is there.

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      Terfs have poisoned the feminist name and cause. My tin foil hat says that it was an intentional act by fascist elites to infiltrate the movement to destroy it.

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    Is this the same Gallup poll from a few months ago that showed that compared to a few years ago all women are getting more right wing except for older women, and the opposite for men yet was framed as such that men were trending right when it clearly didnā€™t actually show that?

    I canā€™t tell because this article is paywalled, but I suspect it is.

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      In the future, copy the URL for the article that you cannot read and paste it into https://12ft.io/ and presto, no more paywall. Try it now. Itā€™s actually easier than whining about paywalls. Then you too will be able to meaningfully participate in the debate.

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        Wow thanks mate!


        I ended up using archive.is and they donā€™t even link to Gallup poll in the article!

        So instead I googled to find the poll I had already seen last month and guess whatā€™s it was exactly as I already knew it was.

        Wow, the information I already knew pointing out the only group of women becoming more Liberal are older women was as I said it was.

        Gee golly look at that, the data is very different from the premise of the article like I had said in my original post.

        Iā€™m so glad I had your snarky arse fucking response to help me realise what I already knew.

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            You need some glasses there buddy? Clearly only the dotted light blue line is going up lately, with everyone else decreasing the last few years.

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    I think itā€™s pretty straightforward why this happens - liberal politics as a hive mind talks to women, but it does not talk to men. Even this piece, look at the following quote.

    Actor Johnny Depp sued his ex-wife Amber Heard after she wrote a #MeToo op-ed in the Washington Post; even though the piece didnā€™t name him, Depp argued that it was defamatory, and legions of his fans (including plenty of women) engaged in a monthslong campaign of vicious harassment, threats, and vilification of Heard and anyone who might stand up for her.

    The one case where it was at mutual abuse by both parties, they talk about Depp abusing Heard, but not Heard abusing Depp. Thatā€™s why there is a divide. The problem is framed as ā€œviolence against womenā€, instead of ā€œdomestic violence against peopleā€.

    To be clear, modern society presents all people with new problems. But while generic problems like stagnating wages are being talked about as a generic issue, and womenā€™s issues get space as at least a successful special interest issue, issues disproportionately affecting men donā€™t. This results in shitheads like Tate fleecing them and fucking up society at large as well.

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      Iā€™m struggling to understand how you can take one section from examples theyā€™re giving of misogyny and extrapolate that itā€™s a message emanating from ā€œliberal politics as a hive mind.ā€ This is not an article describing Depp and Heardā€™s relationship, this is an article describing the asymmetrical response of the public toward Depp vs toward Heard before any trial happened.

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        Oh thatā€™s easy. Itā€™s cuz theyā€™re a bad faith conservative.

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          Iā€™m as left as they come, if youā€™d like, look at my comment history. I just donā€™t like that there is this big culture war issue that repaints an abusers and rapists vs. decent, normal people issue into a men vs. women issue, thus dividing people and forcing a wide swathe of men who are simply being crushed by the system into the right where they will be fleeced and exploited.

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        But the trial has happened, and it turned out it was both of them that were shitty, and the article still doesnā€™t bring that up. It brings a very contentious case up as a way to drive engagement into a stupid gender war issue, and takes the side of one of the abusers instead of denouncing all abuse as bad. Thatā€™s my issue.

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      And absolutely no recognition of the problem with the statement that most college students are women.

      There are parity issues on both sides of the gender divide. Both can be recognized. Itā€™s not a zero-sum game.

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        Women have for decades now outnumbered men on college campuses

        This isnā€™t a problematic statement, itā€™s a statement of fact. Thereā€™s no value judgment or morality associated with this statement in this article

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          factual, yes - but I think the point being made here is that a larger percentage of males are not being exposed to the benefits of a more expansive early adult educational experience leading to a social and cultural disconnect.

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          Without explanation, it can be offensive. There is no value judgment in the sentence ā€œblack people make up the vast majority of the US prison populationā€ either.

          If you donā€™t explain why, one conclusion someone might have is women are ā€œjust smarterā€, and black people are ā€œjust more criminally inclinedā€.

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        Itā€™s not a zero-sum game.

        This is the big point that is missed by common discourse. The problem is that men have gender-specific issues too, and those are not even being acknowledged as even being valid. Domestic abuse against men doesnā€™t exist. The fact that homelessness or suicides affect men disproportionately, or that the alienation of people from each other affect men in different ways than women, is a taboo topic, because people feel it takes away from the focus on womenā€™s rights, or worse, that men ā€œdeserveā€ this as some kind of ā€œreparationsā€ in kind for suffering.

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          These are absolutely not taboo topics. Iā€™ve read a ton of media about these things. From where do you derive that theyā€™re ā€œtaboo?ā€

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            Look at the article being shared. It addresses the topic of men and women drifting off to different sides of the political spectrum, and all it addresses is why women tend to the left. It conveniently leaves out why men tend to the right. It even insinuates that itā€™s because men are actually alright with supporting abusers, rapists and paedophiles while women are not. Same thing it does to the Depp-Heard case, they were both abusers, but it only mentions Depp as being one.

            Iā€™m not saying that people in general never talk about menā€™s issues. Iā€™m saying that the ā€œliberal leftā€ does not have anything for men on its agenda, and is surprised that men are being left behind by its messaging.

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              This is an article about women becoming much more liberal, men staying ideologically the same and the implications of that. That you would think an article about women becoming more liberal needs to focus more on menā€™s issues is itself a reflection of patriarchal thinking, whether or not thatā€™s your intention. There are plenty of articles covering menā€™s issues, like tons of articles. Why do you think men are entitled to more coverage in this article?

              So when you talk about the ā€œliberal left,ā€ what issues do you think they need to talk about more?

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                Why do you think men are entitled to more coverage in this article?

                But men are covered in this article! It outlines a ton of problems affecting men, it just either does not follow up on the causes and solutions - because who cares, right? - or outright paints it as a political opportunity for women that disaffected men are less likely voters, or even blames men as a whole for the issue.

                young men have stayed ideologically more consistentā€”or, according to other analyses, become more conservative and anti-feminist.

                A cohort of profoundly misogynistic male influencers, one of whom is currently facing criminal charges in Romania for rape and human trafficking, rose to prominence and captured the attention of young men the world over.

                Marriage is declining in the U.S. in part, at least anecdotally, because women, who can now ably provide for themselves, are refusing to pair up with misogynistic men who bring little to the table. This dynamic could leave a lot more single men out thereā€”members of a cohort who are more likely than their female counterparts to be unemployed, financially vulnerable, isolated, and lonely, which in turn can fuel anger and even violence. As young women grow more liberal and young men move right, heterosexual marriage may very well continue to decline, perhaps snowballing political, social, and economic divides.

                work to bridge the divide (which, to be clear, would mean pressing men to be better and creating the conditions for both sexes to thrive)

                Yeah, good job, the only way to fix this stupid gender war is ā€œto press men to be betterā€ and pick themselves up by their bootstraps or something.

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                  How do women bridge the divide with men who follow misogynist influencers? How is that even possible? With men who are antifeminist and want to take away our rights?

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      I disagree. The divide is not because we talk about ā€œviolence against women.ā€ Violence against women is a sadly vastly bigger problem rooted in eons of misogyny. That does NOT take a damn thing away from men and nbs who are abused.

      Maybe the left can do more to capture the minds of young men, but how? Conservatism plays at peopleā€™s base instincts, fear and ingrained culture. Itā€™s easier to avoid the cognitive dissonance of recognizing that hey, toxic masculinity does kinda suck. Or perhaps that the social construct of women in the home rearing kids is demeaning and repressive and has nothing to do with nature.

      I think men have a lot of reflecting to do, and itā€™s very hard to do that when itā€™s uncomfortable and challenges you to think differently. Conservatism simply maintains the status quo which places men higher, and thatā€™s a lot more convenient than introspection.

      All this isnt to say that men arenā€™t being left behind when it comes to body positivity, mental health, etc. These are things that are vitally important for men too.

      Also, I would avoid the Heard topic which is a beacon of misinformation and misogyny. I exclusively read negativity about Heard from news outlets and Reddit. It was like Depp was everyoneā€™s best friend as they suddenly rushed to his defense against ā€œfeminismā€. Blegh.

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        Violence against women is a sadly vastly bigger problem rooted in eons of misogyny.

        According to the CDC, more than one in three women (35.6 percent) and more than one in four men (28.5 percent) in the U.S. have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

        So the proportion isnā€™t vastly bigger, only about 7%. Also men are much more likely to be the victims of violence generally.

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          And the proportion doesnā€™t matter either. All victims of violence deserve help and empathy. Otherwise, the argument is that ā€œminority victims donā€™t matterā€. LGBTQ folks also deserve help and support tailored to their needs, despite being a relative minority.

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          Good point, however there is more to this situation than the raw numbers. Women are a minority and simply face a different kind of oppression and violence. I mean think about womenā€™s health outcomes, anti-abortion legislation, etc. Plus, you can break those statistics down further. By the time theyā€™re 17, 1/3 of women have experienced a rape or attempted rape, whereas the same is true for 1/4 of men. 1/3rd of women rape victims experience it before age 17, whereas the same is true of 1/4 of male rape victims.

          In reality, only 2.6% of men reported ever being raped, which even accounting for underreporting utterly pales in comparison to 18% of women.

          • ā€œNearly 1 in 5 women (18.3%) and 1 in 71 men (1.4%) in the United States have been raped at some time in their lives, including completed forced penetration, attempted forced penetration, or alcohol/drug facilitated completed penetration.

          Source: https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics

          Regardless, just because one thing is maybe more prevalent than another doesnā€™t mean the other isnā€™t a problem. I do not mean to downplay violence in any form against anyone.

          What I mean is focusing on violence against women isnā€™t inherently an issue, and I donā€™t think thatā€™s what is driving young men toward conservatism. We can focus on more than one thing at once. I think that conservatism empowers young men, elevates them. It is the path of least resistance for most because men-on-top is ingrained deeply in our society. I think that young men are gravitating to the most attractive worldview presented to them, no matter how selfish and regressive it is because it feels right.

          EDIT: I got the stats wrong.

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            Women are a minority

            Are they? Last I checked, women were actually the majority across most of the world by a very slight edge, mostly because men die earlier since hard physical labour and wars disproportionately kill men.

            By the time theyā€™re 17, 1/3 of women have experienced a rape or attempted rape, whereas the same is true for 1/4 of men. Regardless, just because one thing is maybe more prevalent than another doesnā€™t mean the other isnā€™t a problem.

            Why bring it up then? Whatā€™s the point?

            and simply face a different kind of oppression and violence.

            If they face a different kind of violence, that would imply men face a different kind of violence, too, right? If they are different from each other, that means both sexes need special attention on issues disproportionately affecting them, donā€™t they?

            What I mean is focusing on violence against women isnā€™t inherently an issue, and I donā€™t think thatā€™s what is driving young men toward conservatism.

            The problem is not ā€œfocusing on womenā€™s issuesā€. The problem is ā€œnot focusing on menā€™s issuesā€.

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              Women are a social minority. Whites in South Africa who perpetuated the apartheid were the majority oppressing a minority, despite being vastly outnumbered. I am referring to sociological minorities, not statistical.

              Why bring it up then? Whatā€™s the point?

              I edited my comment. The numbers are far more disparate than I initially misread. I only brought it up because weā€™re getting into specifics and I had to do some research. Women are indeed more affected by sexual violence. Whatā€™s more, over 90% of sexual violence is perpetrated by men.

              that means both sexes need special attention on issues disproportionately affecting them, donā€™t they?

              Definitely.

              The problem is not ā€œfocusing on womenā€™s issuesā€. The problem is ā€œnot focusing on menā€™s issuesā€.

              This is fair, but it sounded to me like you were implying this was a zero sum game. We can do both.

              My primary assertion is that conservatism (and figures like Tate) is attractive to young men because they reinforce what society has taught for their whole lives, and if not, then itā€™s at least a power fantasy that places them in control, which is preferable to the alternative. Reality (which some refer to as ā€œwokeismā€ or ā€œleftismā€) is not as tantalizing. Realizing that you as a man have implicit biases, privilege, and toxicity embedded deep within you requires a level of introspection and empathy that most young people do not possess.

              I struggle to see how ā€œthe leftā€ can capture the minds of young men in the same way when taking an objective view of reality.

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                Whatā€™s more, over 90% of sexual violence is perpetrated by men.

                This is such a problematic statistic to bring up. It means nothing to the victims and their needs, or how should we help them. It also doesnā€™t matter from a prevention point of view, since the vast majority of men are not rapists. It only serves to reframe the issue from ā€œabusers against victimsā€ to ā€œmen against womenā€.

                at least a power fantasy that places them in control, which is preferable to the alternative

                What is that alternative, then? Thatā€™s the problem, I do not see anyone proposing an alternative role to men in society.

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                  I dont think it is problematic in itself. I am merely pointing out that my previous statements about the disparities between men and women were correct.

                  The mentality is certainly ā€œabusers vs victims,ā€ but we cannot bury our heads in the sand and ignore the context. I.e. we must recognize that most rapists are men. Most rape victims are women. Why this is the case is important to examine if we are to improve things.

                  Why do men need a ā€œroleā€ in society specifically? Is it the case that men simply feel aimless and this leads them to conservatism? To violence, even? I donā€™t know. I donā€™t think women go about feeling assured about their role in society which in turn makes them end up more liberal. Why would the inverse be true for men?

                  Again, this isnā€™t to say we donā€™t need support for young men or that they are never victimized. The only messages I can think of are: acknowledge and understand your privilege, act with empathy, emotions are important and should be discussed, etc. Way less sexy than shooting boar from a helicopter with a minigun or whatever it is menā€™s role in society boils down to.

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        That does NOT take a damn thing away from men and nbs who are abused.

        Thatā€™s the point, it doesnā€™t. But popular discourse pretends that it does in the inverse, that talking about abused men somehow weakens womenā€™s rights.

        Maybe the left can do more to capture the minds of young men, but how?

        As the culture war goes, the right tells men they get to become either a head of a happy family with a loving wife and kids who give meaning to your blood sweat and tears in your hard work, or they tell you that you get to become a hedonistic macho guy using and abusing all that male privilege.

        What does the left tell you? For women, they have the ā€œsuccessful single girlbossā€ trope to aspire to, or even the ā€œhardworking single momā€ thing. As a man who is supposed to catch on to the liberal side of the culture war, what is my role in society?

        Even the term ā€œtoxic masculinityā€ sucks as a lot of people misunderstand it as ā€œsocietal woes caused by menā€, using it as a cudgel telling men that they are the cause for whatever way society sucks.

        All this isnt to say that men arenā€™t being left behind when it comes to body positivity, mental health, etc. These are things that are vitally important for men too.

        Look, thatā€™s exactly the problem. It is only okay to help men as a byproduct of something that helps women. Just look at domestic violence again. Letā€™s say that the rates at which men experience domestic violence as a victim is not underreported for various reasons. There are still men out there being victimized. Are there any shelters out there for men?

        Also, I would avoid the Heard topic which is a beacon of misinformation and misogyny.

        I didnā€™t bring it up, the article did. What I came away with was that both sides sucked they both are abusers, but a lot of media either only covers one side or the other, depending on what they want to say. My point is that they brought up the case, and they took a side, and they took the side of an abuser. If they took the opposite side, that would still be taking the side of an abuser.

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          What does the left tell you? For women, they have the ā€œsuccessful single girlbossā€ trope to aspire to, or even the ā€œhardworking single momā€ thing. As a man who is supposed to catch on to the liberal side of the culture war, what is my role in society?

          I was watching a video about the phenomenon of men getting more conservative - which is happening globally - and one of the men who is doing a lot of work on improving it said that men can take on roles of caretakers and househusbands because those are possible now.

          To me, that rings a bit hollow because for decades women have been struggling to get out of those roles because theyā€™re not respected by society regardless of who does them. Saying that men now have the option to take them on doesnā€™t feel like a solid argument.

          They made a lot of interesting points and covered a lot of reasons why men and boys are falling behind, especially in education, but that part felt like he hadnā€™t thought it the whole way through.

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      Which is why some men are becoming ā€œanti-feministā€. Itā€™s not that theyā€™re anti-women, itā€™s that they are anti-ā€œA movement that tells them they are the source of all problems and offers them no supportā€. Why support a cause that openly tells you youā€™re the bad guy just for what private parts you have while simultaneously shouting that private parts are irrelevant and shouldnt be part of the conversation.

      But nah, guys are just hateful and terrible. Keep up the divide šŸ‘

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        Which is why some men are becoming ā€œanti-feministā€. Itā€™s not that theyā€™re anti-women, itā€™s that they are anti-ā€œA movement that tells them they are the source of all problems and offers them no supportā€.

        I think the problem is more inherent in how America interprets liberalism. We donā€™t include things like class consciousness into liberal ideology, here itā€™s all about addressing specific systemic inequalities between certain demographics.

        When you define liberalism as only fixing these inequalities then of course a large population of men arenā€™t going to involve themselves, they donā€™t reap any benefit, theyā€™re not experiencing any systemic abuse.

        However, if we accommodate socioeconomic realities of class into the equation, things start making a bit more sense. By protecting the most disadvantaged demographic in your class, you also strengthen your own interests.

        I think itā€™s important to keep in mind exactly who people are talking about when they make general criticism about men. If you arenā€™t participating in misogyny, then they really arenā€™t talking about you. They just arenā€™t vocalizing the division in class that separates us all from the reigns of power.

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          I think itā€™s important to keep in mind exactly who people are talking about when they make general criticism about men. If you arenā€™t participating in misogyny, then they really arenā€™t talking about you.

          Iā€™m a leftist man and I hate that this phenomenon is considered acceptable. On one hand, a lot of women make criticisms of ā€œmenā€ without further qualification, and even make fun of anyone who says ā€œnot all menā€, but then theyā€™ll turn around and say ā€œoh we didnā€™t mean you, just misogynistsā€. Iā€™m on the fence about even identifying as a man (as opposed to non-binary), and my political views generally very well aligned with feministsā€™, but nonetheless even I feel insulted, so I imagine a huge number of men feel much more insulted than I do.

          How hard is it for critics of toxic masculinity to just say what they actually mean instead of saying a bunch of blatantly sexist things things and then claiming they meant something else when theyā€™re called on it? It has exactly the same energy as the ā€œSchrodingerā€™s douchebagā€ phenomenon, but in that case we see it as obviously disingenuous, but with criticisms of ā€œmenā€, weā€™re supposed to accept that women really donā€™t mean what they say.

          Women who do this need to fucking stop, because theyā€™re draining enthusiasm from their male allies and driving recruitment for their enemies.

          Edit: typo

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            You said so well what I have felt and expressed for so long. Itā€™s really heartbreaking to feel like youā€™re a ā€œlesser allyā€. Thank you for taking the time to write this.

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            Thanks to the internet, j came to understand that to successfully fight off a modern feminazi you have to out-crazy them. Say something like ā€˜i identify as a cat, how dare youā€™ then yowling and hissing like an angry cat until they leave you alone and in peace or something crazier.

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            How hard is it for critics of toxic masculinity to just say what they actually mean instead of saying a bunch of blatantly sexist things things and then claiming they meant something else when theyā€™re called on it?

            Tbh, pretty difficult. At least for the vast majority of people. Putting together a comprehensive argument pertaining to socioeconomics or politics without it being full of internal contradictions is nearly impossible. Especially if your ideological framework isnā€™t accounting for things like class consciousness.

            For example, you are complaining about the reductive reasoning that leads to people make a bunch of sexist claims. However, you yourself utilized reductive thinking to come to that conclusion.

            How prevalent is this attitude among feminist? Is this a majority or minority opinion, and if it is a minority opinion, how impactful is it? If it is just a few people making a lot of noise, is it fair to really judge half the global population for it? It is essentially the same ā€œSchrodingerā€™s douchebagā€ you were speaking about.

            Women who do this need to fucking stop, because theyā€™re draining enthusiasm from their male allies and driving recruitment for their enemies.

            Is essentially the same as saying the men who are misogynist need to stop because they are draining enthusiasm from their female allies and driving recruitment for their enemies.

            None of these are actual solutions to problems, they donā€™t even really identify a problem, itā€™s just rhetoric.

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              However, you yourself utilized reductive thinking to come to that conclusion.

              How so? Iā€™m criticizing women who make blanket statements about men, and I was careful to make it clear that Iā€™m taking about that subset of women, not women in general.

              How prevalent is this attitude among feminist?

              Itā€™s prevalent enough that Iā€™ve encountered it numerous times in my IRL social groups. Itā€™s also prevalent enough that itā€™s a common complaint from men.

              Is essentially the same as saying the men who are misogynist need to stop because they are draining enthusiasm from their female allies and driving recruitment for their enemies.

              They do need to stop. But I didnā€™t think itā€™s an apples to apples comparison because misogyny is an internalized trait that goes way beyond rhetoric, and what Iā€™m criticizing is a certain brand of feminist rhetoric, not feminism per se.

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                How so? Iā€™m criticizing women who make blanket statements about men, and I was careful to make it clear that Iā€™m taking about that subset of women, not women in general.

                Idk, you said" a lot of women" and ā€œI imagine a huge number of men feel much more insulted turn I doā€, not exactly specific language.

                prevalent enough that Iā€™ve encountered it numerous times in my IRL social groups. Itā€™s also prevalent enough that itā€™s a common complaint from men.

                Again, anecdotal evidence. I have not experienced this, but that doesnā€™t mean it doesnā€™t happen. Assuming that all societal discourse is reflection of your own experience is a product of reductive reasoning.

                They do need to stop.

                Right, but who are you making that request to? If a woman randomly yelled out to you that misogynist men needed to be cast out of society, what assumptions would you make? How different would it be if they just specified men, not misogynist men?

                My point is that actual productive discourse requires context, nuance, and patience. That even if you are talking to a person who doesnā€™t utilize as precise language as you would like, it doesnā€™t automatically mean that their point is moot. Nor does it really mean they were unintentionally making a claim.

                If someone is making a claim like ā€œmen evilā€ and there is surrounding context that should lead you to believe that this is not a literal statement, like them having a boyfriend or being married to a manā€¦isnā€™t saying ā€œnot all menā€ pedantic? Or even worse, could be interpreted as you purposely misinterpreting the intent of the statement?

                But I didnā€™t think itā€™s an apples to apples comparison because misogyny is an internalized trait that goes way beyond rhetoric

                Couldnā€™t your need for specified absolution be an example of internalized misanthropy? One could assume that people who do not self associate with accusations intended for misogynists, have no real need for this type of pedantic relief.

                Again, my whole point that political discourse is exceedingly hard. And itā€™s made even more difficult by someone forcing a pedantic dispute any time someone isnā€™t being specific enough for their taste.

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                  All Iā€™m really asking for is for people to say anything at all besides just ā€œmenā€ when making complaints about certain men. It doesnā€™t need to be precise, just clear enough that itā€™s obvious that all men arenā€™t the target of criticism. I met the same standard Iā€™m asking for, so I donā€™t thing Iā€™m being hypocritical or overly reductive. I donā€™t think itā€™s too much to ask for people to use a qualifier like ā€œmanyā€ when complaining about a specific subset of men.

                  And itā€™s made even more difficult by someone forcing a pedantic dispute any time someone isnā€™t being specific enough for their taste.

                  Iā€™m not doing that. Iā€™m making my point in a thread thatā€™s specifically about why feminism is often seen in a bad light. Where else could I possibly find a more appropriate venue for such a criticism?

                  That even if you are talking to a person who doesnā€™t utilize as precise language as you would like, it doesnā€™t automatically mean that their point is moot.

                  I never said it did. Iā€™m saying it causes an emotional reaction that is extremely unhelpful for productive dialog.

                  Or even worse, could be interpreted as you purposely misinterpreting the intent of the statement?

                  I know better than to say ā€œnot all menā€. Youā€™re missing something critical: while I used myself as an example, my comment was not about me. Itā€™s about all the men who see women talk that way and come away with the impression that feminism is hostile to them just because theyā€™re men. You donā€™t need to convince me of anything, and even if you did, convincing me would not solve the problem.